KC Posted October 30, 2004 Share Posted October 30, 2004 My 3-year old daughter his missing her Grandpa terribly lately. I think I may have set her off when I told her on Thursday, October 21st that it was Grandpa's birthday. I had to tell her because I wanted to bring flowers and a balloon to my father's grave and I had no one to watch her. So we sang happy birthday to grandpa and left him flowers and the balloon. Then on Saturday we went to a carnival and she got a fake tatoo. My mom was watching her on Sunday for me and they went in the pool. The tatoo started coming off while she was in the pool and my Mom told me she saw her standing in a corner talking to Grandpa. She was saying "Grandpa, I don't want it to come off, Grandpa, I miss you. I miss you, Grandpa". It was heartbreaking. My mother asked her if she wanted to watch the home movies and see Grandpa. She watched movie, after movie. His birthday last year, last halloween, last Christmas. I was sitting in the other room for hours listening because I can't really watch these films yet. Boy, it was heartwrenching, hearing my father's happy voice. I miss him so very much. Life is so different without him, and I don't really like it much. Anyway, my daughter wore her Belle halloween costume from Beauty and the Beast to her class on Wednesday. It has a wand that she carries. I heard her say into the wand, "I wish, I wish Grandpa would come back" and then she blew on the wand. I said, "what did you say honey", she said "nothing". I told her like I always do that "Grandpa is still with us and he is always in our hearts and that he can see everything she is doing. I told her that he didn't want to leave us but he had to go and make the boo boo go away and if he comes back, the boo boo comes back too." She woke up Thursday morning, saying "I miss Grandpa". Today she woke up and the first thing she said was, "I want to see Grandpa again." I said, "why, did you see him?", thinking maybe she had a dream about him. She said, "yea, he's in the sky, in the clouds". I did say out loud the other day for my Dad to please come and visit her, that she needs to see him. Today, driving home from dinner, out of no where, we were singing songs and she says out loud, "I want to see my Grandpa, again." I feel so sorry for her. My father passed away in March. He was her best friend and she is grieving terribly for him lately. I don't know if I'm doing more damage than good in talking about him every day. I talk to her every day about him. If she does something wonderful, we always say, look, Grandpa, and then we tell him what she did. I can't and won't let her forget him. She got cheated of having him in her life, I don't want her to be cheated of his memory. Please, does anyone have advice or comments. I'm so sorry for the long post. My heart breaks for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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