tom Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 I haven't posted much to this Board but it has been very comforting to me over the course of battling this disease. My partner of 23.5 years was diagnosed in April 2003 with stage IIIB inoperable lung cancer. He went through a variety of chemo and radiation treatments, had pleural effusion, and finally in July of this year it metastasized to his brain, spine, left lung and liver. He finished CyberKnife treatments 3 weeks ago. He was the most courageous person I ever knew. He never complained and always thought of others first. Even when the prognosis was poor he managed to smile and tell me not to worry. He never gave up hope and even on the day he died he wanted to know if he could get his chemo in the hospital room. His thoughts were of me not of himself. He went to work even after he got chemo because he didn't want to be a burden on others. I was with him to the end. I'll never forget it. I'm at a loss for words. He was a wonderful and caring individual and a loving partner and father. I don't know what I'm going to do alone without him. So often I read him stories from this board of people who offered hope and news about clinical trials and success stories. It’s a great place for people suffering with this disease. Thanks to everyone for sharing your intimate details about your lives. It helped us cope. Tom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nancy B Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, So sorry for your loss. Please stay with us for any support you might need. Take Care Nancy B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, I am so very sorry for your loss. 23.5 years is such a long time. My Earl and I were married for 26 years and yet I feel like there was never a time he wasn't in my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pecola Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 (((Tom))) Jud sounds like a remarkably unselfish and loving person. I am so sorry for your enormous loss. Gina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, I'm so sorry for your loss. May God give you the strength to carry you through the days ahead... God Bless sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betplace Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 (((Tom))) Such a waste to lose a wonderful man like that to this selfish beast!! Please accept my deepest condolances. Stay with us, as we can help in the long months ahead to deal with the grief of your loss. Blessings Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, I am so sorry to hear about this loss. Please accept my sincere condolences. Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 My heartfelt sympathies, 'Tom, for your loss. May you have healing and peace with time. Let us know how we may support you in this. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, I am sorry that you have lost Jud. He sounds like he fought hard. Please come here to get some healing. Blessings, Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, Please accept my condolences on the loss of your partner in life. I have said those words so many times....too many times. But the sentiment behind the words isn't lessened by over use. Prayers to you for peace in the days ahead. I'm just sorry we didn't get the chance to get to know you and Jud. And I hope you will stay with us. You really are among friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debi Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, I just want to ditto everything that has been said before me and extend my sympathies to you. It sounds like Jud was a good man; I am so sorry for your loss... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nushka Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 I really can't add anything to what has already been said. I wish you peace and comfort in the days and months ahead. Losing a partner in life is so hard to accept. Stay with us, and let us know how we can help. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Sorry for your loss Tom. My condolences. Rich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mayos Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 I'm hoping you can feel the warmth and strength headed your way Tom. My heartfelt sympathies are yours in the loss of your longtime love. Cancer is the very worst of thieves..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyCW Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, I am so very sorry for your loss of your partner. Jud really does sound like a wonderful man, and after almost 24 years, I can't imagine what you're going through right now. I'm glad you told us, and hope you will come back and let us know how you are doing, let us see if there is anything we can do to help ease the pain even just a little bit. You said he was a great father; how old is/are the children? I will keep you in my prayers. BeckyCW Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donaf Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, Sending prayers for strength and peace. Stay on and find comfort here, it is a great place. Martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SBeth Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, I will keep you, Jud and the rest of your family in my prayers. I hope that the love and support of family and friends, along with time, will slowly help you begin to heal from the terrible pain you are feeling. Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom,sorry to hear of the loss of your partner.He sounds like a very strong and courageous person.Sending prayers for strength and peace in the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, I am sorry for the loss of your partner. He sounds like a wonderful man who will be sorely missed. Keep in touch, let us help you... XOXOXOX Prayers always, MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Tom, I am so sorry for your loss..Your loved one sounds like he was a special person....We're here if you need us.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kdaru Posted November 4, 2004 Share Posted November 4, 2004 Sorry to hear of your loss. Your brief eulogy was touching, he sounds like a wonderful man, loving and much loved. Katie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted November 6, 2004 Share Posted November 6, 2004 Tom, So sorry for your loss, my deepest synpaties. J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chloesmom Posted November 7, 2004 Share Posted November 7, 2004 Tom, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your partner. He sounds like he was a wonderful man... Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa O Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like he was a beautiful and caring man. May his memory provide comfort through the most difficult times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
berisa Posted November 8, 2004 Share Posted November 8, 2004 Tom, I am very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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