kdaru Posted November 16, 2004 Share Posted November 16, 2004 Decided to post this on the caregivers board, as this is something y'all probably have experience with. Dad has been diagnosed for less than a month, and he's going through some awful mood swings. One second he's in despair ("I'm a dying man!"), the next he's talking about taking out a monster loan and expanding the family business. He flies into a rage over little things, and I'm afraid he'll make some bad business decisions. Now my rant: He refuses to come to this board, does no research on lung cancer, leaves it all to me. If he has a side effect from the chemo, he doesn't call his doctor or nurse, he comes to me to fix it. Well, what did the information packet say? He doesn't know, he didn't bother to read it. Every day it's a damn litany - it hurts if I press here, and I was tired this morning but not now, and I was nauseated three nights ago, and there's this spot on my arm and my throat hurts and and I'm gaining weight and tell me what to do. Then my mother comes in and it's Dad's losing weight, and he was complaining about his stomach hurting and he didn't sleep well last night and what foods should I cook for him and this booklet says apples are no good and he ate an apple today and I'm so worried about our future and what should we do? I feel like yelling, "I don't KNOW what to do. If I knew I would be DOING it now, wouldn't I?" I'm feeling pressured, and frankly, resentful. How can I care for him over the long haul if I'm losing it already? Guess I'm venting more about me . I can understand his mood swings, have brought up mood stabilizers but he won't hear of it so I guess I'm stuck there. But how do I handle my own moods? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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