Hopeful Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 my husband passed on, two weeks ago tomorrow. he was dxs (?) 9-14, in 7 weeks he was gone. he fought it so hard no one could believe it. he was the most wonderful, kind, generous, friendly and person you would ever meet. i get cards from people that just met him and say they knew he was a kind and caring person. (in a workplace that you don't see that kind of thing.) people drove over 2 hours one way to come to his service. some took off w/o pay went home to clean up, went to service then drove back and changed and went back to work. i just don't know how i can do it w/o him.....we were best friends he and i did everything together. at the service we passed a candle around and no one could even talk they were crying so hard everyone who spoke talked about our great love for each other, how we were meant for each other. now i want to be with him eternally. but we have 2 grown sons and a grandson. so i ask my husband to take me but make sure the boys are going to be alright. i know he wants me with him as much as i want to be with him. he was so sweet he tried to do everything for me. he got scared if i went to the dr. (20 mile drive) he always called from work. take care, joni Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 Dear Joni, I am so sorry for your loss. I know words are of little comfort. God bless. Curtis Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 I am so very sorry your husband lost his battle. I wish you and your boys strength to get through the time ahead without him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 I also am so sorry for your loss. I pray for you and the family for peace. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 Joni, I am so sorry for your tremendous loss..Your husband sounds like he was a wonderful man..I think one of our fears is that our precious loved ones will be forgotten.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betplace Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 Joni, Please accept my sincerest condolances on the loss of your beloved husband. I pray that you find the strength to get through your pain and sorrow. Blessings Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 Joni,so sorry for your loss.I know how close the two of you were,my wife and I are like that too.Prayers coming for strength and comfort in the days ahead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connie B Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 (((((((((((((((((Joni)))))))))))))))) Oh Joni, I am so very sorry you lost your best friend. My heart goes out to you. Peace to you and your family during this very difficult time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeR Posted November 19, 2004 Share Posted November 19, 2004 Joni, I am so sorry to hear the loss of your husband. He sounds like he was a wonderful man. Hold on to all the great memories because they are so precious. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family. DianeR Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted November 20, 2004 Share Posted November 20, 2004 Joni, I'm so sorry for your loss. My hubby and I have been married for 37 years, and I, too, can't imagine being without him. I know, though, that if something happens to him, or vice versa, that we will both eventually move forward and focus on the ones that are still here that we love so much. You will eventually be able to do that for your boys. Whether your sons are grown or not, they still need you! Your grandson needs you! I'm sure there are many family and friends that need you and love you. We need you here, too. There are many grieving spouses here that need your support, as well as you needing them, so please hang on tight. It will take a while, but it will get better. Again, I am so sorry for your loss! God bless you, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted November 20, 2004 Share Posted November 20, 2004 Joni, I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. I pray you find the strength to get through this incredibly painful time. God be with you and yours, sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annjael Posted November 21, 2004 Share Posted November 21, 2004 ((((((((Joni)))))))) I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your sweet husband. You are where I was, 3 yrs ago this past August. I was married for 29 yrs. I know this is a terrible time for you, it is overwhelming. The feelings you have are normal. Please just take one day at a time, get as much rest as possible, and remember to eat, even if it is several small meals per day. Grief takes alot of energy. There is no magic time frame for grief, it is very individual. I can tell you it gets easier, but it also takes time to get to that point. You don't ever forget, you learn to cope. Please know that my prayers and thoughts are with you. My sincere sympathy Peace and blessings Annjael Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suz Posted November 24, 2004 Share Posted November 24, 2004 Dear Joni, I cannot imagine your feelings of loss. I am so very sorry. Open your arms for a big hug coming to you. You two were so fortunate to have a lovely marriage. Thinking of youand your sons. Suz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kim Posted November 24, 2004 Share Posted November 24, 2004 Joni, I am so sorry for your loss. My mom and dad were married for 41 yrs. and my mom did everything, she took care of everything, even dad. It has been very hard on him and he often asks why God didn't take him instead of her. He told me he didn't think he could go on without her, but I told him that he had to. I believe God has a reason for our time here and when that time is done, he takes us home. My mom's death was not in vain. She continues to inspire and change the people she knew and loved. We must continue their legacy of love and hope for the future. We owe that to them. It doesn't make it any easier, and missing them is the hardest part; God, how I wish I could just hug her again, and feel her love and warmth envelope me again, but memories will have to suffice, for now. I tell myself one day I will have an eternity of hugs where the warmth and safety of those hugs never end. Hang in there Joni, we are here for you. I hope and pray that with each passing day the pain becomes less, and the memories become more precious than gold. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lilyjohn Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 Joni I do understand how you feel. I know that feeling of wanting to go and be with your loved one. Sometimes still I have that feeling and it will be two years Thursday sense my Johnny died. All I can say is that you get through it. It isn't easy and sometimes you wonder why you bother but there really isn't any choice. Life is not fair but I do believe that dispite our pain there is a reason for our loved ones leaving us behind in this cruel world. Maybe someday when we join them we will understand. The thing is love is a beautiful and precious thing and it never dies. Maybe we have to stay behind so we can project that love for others to see and learn from. God bless you and help you through the coming weeks. I know only too well how hard the holidays are. Still you have your sons how lucky you are to have them. I will be praying for you and all of us who need to find a way to make our way again. Lillian Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patut Posted November 30, 2004 Share Posted November 30, 2004 Joni, All the folks who posted above have great wisdom. And this all happened too fast for you. What a shock. But you know what? You can go on and you will, and you will have him with you everyday. I promise you, his spirit will be with you and you will know it too. I know this from when I lost my Mom, and I am bracing myself for if my hubbie should go before me. I think having children is what will help me in the end. I am so sorry. Much love, Cyndy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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