Guest Posted January 14, 2005 Share Posted January 14, 2005 I don't have a clue how to begin this...I guess with the relevant issue. My 65 yo mother has lung cancer that has spread to lymph nodes. She is 10 yrs with COPD, on oxygen 24/7, and continues to smoke. Docs say no surgery, no chemo, no radiation. Basically nothing to do treatment-wise except keep her comfortable. I feel I desparately need someone to help guide me through this. My father has been her primary caregiver...and he is over 70 and keeps many things from us kids. My closest sibling is my older sister and she is in Calif. (I am in Oregon). I have a long history of mental and emotional instability but have been very strong and on the right track for over 4 years now. I am restricted physically because of a double-fusion in my neck in September that has not healed correctly and am playing the "dang it when is someone going to find out what's wrong" game with the doctors about this. I am in constant pain from it. I don't know where to turn, I don't want to talk to sister or father, they have their own stuff to deal with...but I absolutely want to be there for my mom and them during the next few months while we go through this. I want to be strong and yet I can feel myself beginning to crumble from the weight piling on me. Where the heck do I start...to get help for myself so I can be a help to the others? I have limited funds and limited medical insurance coverage. The only thing I can think of to do is make appt. with my primary care doc and lay it all out for her...and see what she says. Any suggestions from those out there that have had similar experience? Thanks for letting me reach out...not something I am used to doing. twheeler Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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