WhenStars Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 It is with great sadness that I write with the news of my father's passing. On Sunday, February 13, my beloved Daddy passed on to eternal rest. I have been thinking about posting on this board for a few days, but life has been strangely busy - with the wake, memorial service, putting finances in order, etc. On Friday (2/11), the doctors decided that they needed to get a small biopsy from my dad's lung to determine the cause of his respiratory distress. The doctors assumed it was radiation pneumonitis, but wanted to rule out all options to confirm he was being properly treated. My dad was anxious (and the steroids didn't help), but we kissed him goodbye and promised to see him when he "woke up" from this very simple procedure. He was in a relatively good mood, and we had spent the whole day with him. My dad never properly woke up from the anasthesia. As we later found out (on Saturday night), he suffered a massive brain stem stroke during the surgery. On Sunday, as per his wishes, we removed the ventilator and allowed my dad to join God. The doctors told us that although LC had not directly caused my dad's death, the stroke was likely a result of the cancer, the steroids, and the strain of the treatment on his body. As many of you can imagine - or understand too well, I am overwhelmed with grief and sadness. I loved my dad so much, and I am so scared. I am only 27, and I can't imagine how my life will go on without him. Before I go, I just want to thank everyone who participates on this board. This board has been an enormous source of hope and optimism, and it helped me get through the toughest four months of my life. So, thank you. And God bless all of you. Through many tears, Kate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate: Please accept my condolences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TAnn Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, I am deeply saddened by the news of your dad. I am sending prayers for your comfort during this most difficult time. Thank you for letting us know. TAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail p-m Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 So sorry to hear about your dad. My sincere condolences to you and your family during this very difficult time. Gail p-m Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chloesmom Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your father. Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaffie Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 So sorry for your loss, please accept my condolences. I also lost my father to this nasty stuff, I absolutely HATE this stuff and what it does to families. Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karen335 Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, I am so sorry to read this sad news. Sending condolences and prayers to you and you family. God Bless, Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haylee_38 Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, I am sorry to hear of the loss of your father. My thoughts are with you and your family. Haylee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
slinaresholz Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Very sorry to hear this! Will pray for you and your family. Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, I am so sorry at the loss of your dad. My heartfelt sympathies to you and family. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karenl Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, I am so sorry. I hope you will stay with us. Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, I'm so sorry... My thoughts and prayers are with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ken f. Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 so sorry to hear about your papa. my mother is pretty much sinking under right now and i've been thinking about the "orphan" experience. i have told my mom is that she showed me all these years how to live and that she is now showing me how to die. she's a little impatient with her process. one thing is sure: there will be no excuses for not acting like the adult in the family! i hope you find some new horizons glimmering and bright. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Oh Kate, my condolences on the passing of your dad. My heart goes out to you as that must have been such a shock to lose him that way. Just remember that he left that sick physical body but his sole lives on and he is free of pain. He will always look out for you. You just have to talk to him in a prayer or meditation. Just cherish all those wonderful memories you had together. Peace be with you. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Hello Kate, I read your post and groaned out loud, "oh, no." I am so sorry that this happened. I just don't know what else to say. I am sorry. I hope that you will find comfort somewhere soft. Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, I am so sorry for your loss. Sincere condolences. Margaret Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, Please accept my condolences. It sounds like your Father died surrounded with love. I wish you peace in the days and weeks to come. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, I am so sorry you lost your father. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
betplace Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 I am so sorry, please accept my deepest condolances on the loss of your beloved Fater. Blessings Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, Sorry for the loss of your father, Rich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, My heartfelt sympathy and my prayers to you and your family. I can never find the words ... (((Hugs))) Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate I am so sorry for your loss of your Dad. I pray for your and your family for peace. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, I am so sorry you lost your dad. I lost my dad last June and I know how much it hurts. Prayers for comfort and peace coming your way. Love, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Kate, I am so sorry for the loss of your Father.Wishing you strength and comfort in the days ahead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elnodel Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 Dear Kate, I'm so sorry about your father. But I know he died surrounded by love and that his memory will help you as you learn to get along without him, hard though that may seem to you at this time. Having it happen that quickly makes it a little more difficult to deal with, but the loss of a parent or loved one is always difficult no matter how much you prepare yourself for it. Know that we're all thinking of you at this time. Ellen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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