nikkala Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Well, things sure are tough. When my Gram was diagnosed in December she chose no treatment. We are now nearing the end. The hospice nurse thinks it will be in the next couple days. This is killing me. She has huge nodes all over and it has spread into the bone all over. She is on major pain meds but they are not doing it. We are giving her the max without killing her and she is still in awful pain. The hospice nurse said she has not had someone with such bad uncontrolable pain. The priest from church is coming tomorrow to give her her last rights and I am just praying for this all to end. She is the 3rd member of my family to die of cancer and it just seems to get worse each time. The nurse offered to put her in the hospital but she is still able to answer for herself and she said no, so we are just doing the best we can. anyway that's all for now . Thanks for listening. Quote
Ry Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Oh I am so sorry she is in such pain. This just shouldn't be happening. It has to be so hard for you to watch her go through this. I am so sorry. Quote
gail p-m Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 I am so sorry that your Gram is in so much pain. It must be so difficult for you to watch this too. But if your Gram doesn't want to go to the hospital, the best you can do is be there for your Gram as you have been, hard as it is. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your Gram. Gail P-M Quote
Don Wood Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Sorry you have to go through this, Lisa. Vent here all you want. Don Quote
stand4hope Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 I just don't understand this when I hear that pain can't be controlled. It really, really upsets me - a lot!! Even though your sweet Gram doesn't have much time left, isn't there anyone else that can be called in to do something to get rid of the pain? It shouldn't have to be this way. When my dad was dying, they gave him shots of morphine every 15 minutes. Somebody needs to be raising their voice louder and get your Gram some relief. Lisa, I know that sounded angry, and I certainly hope I didn't make it harder for you. My heart aches for you. I've been through this several times, and I know how hard it is and I know how much it hurts you, too. Hang in there, honey. I will pray for you and your Gram. Love, Peggy Quote
Maryanne Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Nik, I am so sorry your gram is in such awful pain. I pray for her to be out of her misery and be in a much better and pain free place. I also pray for strength for you as you are so scared and feel so helpless. You are a wonderful daughter, You mom is so lucky to have you by her side. That will make things easier during her transisiton. She will be with her love ones who passed before her. She will be at peace and free of that sick, diseased body. She will be feeling wonderful and free. I pray for peace for her and strength for you who is carrying a big burden on your shoulders. Please take care of yourself also, Maryanne Quote
MelanieLR Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Dear Lisa, I am so very sorry for your Gram & for you. I just wish I could take it away for you. Please know that my prayers are with you both every moment, Hugs, Melanie Quote
NancyT Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 Lisa, So sad to read your Gram is in such pain and your family is doing all you can for her. I hope that Hospice has looked at every angle to improve this pain control. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you. Nancy Quote
kimblanchard Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 I am thinking of you both today. Maybe the nurse can give her a shot while she is there, even a few hours of relief is a good thing. You have been through so much. She is so lucky to have you to help her. Soon she will be out of this physical world and those troubles will be over. It could be as the end draws close she will no longer feel the pain. Just in case - they gave my husband last rites after he was already gone, so if the priest is late, it is still okay for her. Come back here as often as you need. Love, Margaret Quote
nikkala Posted March 13, 2005 Author Posted March 13, 2005 Thank you all for your prayers. My Gram died this morning. I was with her holding her hand. Quote
stand4hope Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 Oh, Lisa, I am so, so sorry. I know this has been a hard thing for you to go through, and I am so glad you were with her and holding her hand when she passed. Thank God she has no more pain. My sympathies to you and your family. Love, Peggy Quote
sharyn Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 Lisa, I am so very sorry to hear that Gram lost her battle. But God bless her, she did it "her way" right to the end. She wanted to be home and you allowed her that right... What a wonderful grand daughter you are. I am glad you were with her, I hope she left this world peacefully and she is now finally without pain at rest. Love, Sharon Quote
MelanieLR Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 Dear Lisa, I know nothing I say will fix this for you. I'm so sorry dear. Just know that she has all the peace, joy, health & beauty in the universe now. I just know that she is smiling on you now & hoping to ease your suffering just as you did hers before she passed. May God give you the strength you need to get through this time. Hugs & prayers, Melnaie Quote
J.C. Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 Lisa, I'm sorry about your grandmother, keep in mind that you were with her and that she was home as she wanted. prayers for strength and peace for all of you. J.C. Quote
kimmek Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 I am sorry very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you, and please know you are in my prayers, God bless you Kim Quote
Patkid Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 May your gram rest in peace, Amen. Brian and Pat Quote
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