UncleDoug Posted May 5, 2005 Share Posted May 5, 2005 In joining a discussion on whether it's "right" or "wrong" to continue smoking after being diagnosed with lc I received a PM from a board member who seemed more anxious to confront than comfort, to blame than balm. Without mentioning this persons name, here was my reply: Like many non-addictive personalities you seem to want all issues interpreted in either black and white, good or bad. You fail to see either the depth of the question nor the personal cost of those self-same ironies which make the choices addicts make as insane as their actions. The original question is how someone could continue to support a behavior which has proven to be so destructive to them in the past. Look up the definition of addict. All people who smoke aren't bad. Just as all people who purport to spiritualism are necessarily all good. The issue involved isn't to assign blame or guilt to someome who is suffering through the tragedy of a debilitating illness. The issue is what, for them, constitutes a mitigating moral argument which allows them to continue in addictive behavior while understanding that they, as human beings, still hold a place of worth and value in their society. How can they be an addict and still a worthwhile person? How can they not quit, now that their life is possibly forfeit? How can they do this to their loved ones? Because the choice is personal, not moral; Rational, not spurred by guilt. They make the choice which, to them, gives the most peace and comfort: to continue in behavior which, on it's face, makes no sense - but which brings a measure of peace and acceptance to a very troubled soul. They don't want to die - but that decision is no longer altogether theirs to make - but they want to hold on to a modicum of self respect. They continue to smoke because it has made them feel good in the past and it makes them feel good now. You ask me how, if I'm getting food stamps, I can still go out and buy cigarettes? That's not a question in search of an answer, that's a recrimination in search of a sinner. You ask how I can't see the irony in continuing to engage in addictive behavior when that behavior most likely is killing me? I ask you to look up the definition of addict; And remember that the definition isn't sinner. I am very sorry for any misfortune that life has laid in your path. You seem to be a mish-mash of self-righteous anger, hate and blame. This is a time in our life when most of us who have this disease are looking for help and guidance, not blame-laying and recriminations. If you truly want to help people on this board, try and remember that we are only trying to find peace, not confrontation - there are plenty of other boards out there for that. Doug Russell Tacoma, WA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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