Maryanne Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 Iam really having a hard time here. I am reading your grieving posts about you moms and I know shortly I will be there too. Well, my mom was taken to the hospital yesterday. They thought she had a stoke. My sister took her to her orthopedic doctor to get a shot for a damaged rotator cup that was giving her much pain. While at the docs. my sister could not understand anything my mom was saying. Even though she is in a wheelchair she could not stand when she went to the bathroom. She was like dead weight. The doctor gave her the needle directly into her rotator cup but commented that something is not right with her. Renee (my sis) took her back to the assisted living and the doctor there told us to call an ambulance as he thinks she had a stoke. I came to the hospital and I could see she recognized me with a smile, but I could not understand what she was saying. They said her oxygen level was low (not sure if is was low or high) they had to incabate her. Well.... after they did that, she blew up like a ballon. My mom is only 4' 8" and weighs about 110 lbs. She looked like Jerry Lewis lying there or a beached whale. Very unrecongnizable. She eyes are swollen shut. They have her on morphine and avitan. So she has been out since about 2:00 yesterday. ER made it sound like she was very critical and may not make it through the night. They placed her in ICU and we stayed there till 6 in the morning. She was stable the whole time so we finally went home. Now this is what is going on. First of all, we have not spoken to the doctor who is in charge with ICU and knows everything that is going on. We waited for her for 3 hours in my moms room for her to finish her rounds and she was ready to come to us, there was an emergency. One thing I forgot to mention. When they were incubating her in the ER, they had the curtains closed and we had to wait outside till they were done. It took an extremely long time and more nurses kept coming in. At one point there was 7 doc. and nurses in there. They said everything went smoothly. Now back to ICU. They are all baffled as to why she is blown up. She is blown up with air not fluid. When you touch her it feels like she has rice crispies under her skin. Wierd feeling. She had a head CT and a full body with contrast CT. We have not officially received the results from the ICU doctor. But we heard from the cardiac doctor that everything is clear and she probably did not have a stoke. Her oxygen level was very low and that could have caused damaged to her brain which made her slurr etc. So why incubate her, why not just give her oxygen? The pulmonary doctor gave her a bronascope to see if there was a tear somewhere in her esophasis. That came out clean but he thinks it is futher down. He feel that when the incubated her the damage may have been made at that time. Her being old, her system is very weak, and this does happen. Therefore, when the incumbate her it made all the air escape. Anyway, they are hoping it will go away in a couple of days. They have to give her somekind of port in her leg to take blood and stuff, because she is so blown up they cannot fine a hint of a vein anywhere. This is what pissses me off, if one more doctor says to us, "Why did you let them incubate when she has a living will DNR..." ERRRRRRRRRRRRR!!! You see mom is 94 but she is full of spunk. The life of the party at the retirement home. Until she fell about 2 years ago and broke her hip, that is why she is in a wheelchair. But dances up a storm in her wheelchair during entertainment time. She is a riot!! My mom has all her functions working and recognized us. I should have said no. NO WAY!! Not until we know there is no hope. I have been having some guilt feelings about this whole thing. Maybe she did not really need to be inabated, then that blow up thing would not have never have happened. Maybe now she would be felling much better and on her road to recovery. We put so much trust into doctors at these scary times we rely on them and tend to listen to what they say, because they are the experts. But then again we have to realise that they are always Practicing medicine. To all my cyber family out there who actually read all this through. Thank you for listening. I know it is so long, but I had to get this off my chest. Even if it was just me reading it. Please send prayers for my mom to at least come out of this even it is just for a short time. I need some kind of recognition sign from her and if need be I want to say goodbye. I have 2 other friends who are fighting for their life right now. One is Stella, my 95 year old neighbor, dying of LC. (just diagnoised last week), I know she is 95 G-d bless her, but that does not make it easier, and a friend who we have known for over 35 years, she has stage 4 brain cancer. Was in remission, now all back. Sometimes life just is not fair. I feel like I am being pulled in all different directions. I don't have the time now to be with them enough because of my mom. I wish I could split myself into threes's. Please take care, so sorry for all the grieving you are going through. I can't imagine not having my mom around... Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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