SC7454 Posted August 23, 2005 Share Posted August 23, 2005 So, I stumbled onto this web site when I really needed it. My mother was just diagnosed with extensive small cell lung cancer (lymph nodes engaged in one lung, center of chest and above, neck, with spread to liver and some spots in bones). My mother is 52 and has never really liked her life, is not exactly a 'strong' person and is prone to depression. I however, am a completely different strong, analytical person and as soon as I found out...I dove into all the information I could find. Which of course, as you all know didn't spell out a pretty picture...but I won't lose hope. She was diagnosed last Wednesday and started chemo yesterday. The doctor has not shared the details with her yet beyond where it is (survival rates, details of how fast moving, etc.) because he feels that she is in too 'fragile' of a state right now...which I agree. However, she knows I know the details because of the research I've been doing. So, here's the dilemma...she's started asking me questions. If I tell her what I know, I really don't feel like she is strong enough to handle it and she will most definitely say 'screw it' or possibly harm herself (not exaggerating, that's just how my mother is). If I let her find out in pieces from the doctor (I asked him to start sharing more with her as we go along because she's in denial and I've told him she isn't listening to what he's saying), I know she is going to be mad and hurt and feel like I conned her into doing something she didn't want to do (the chemo). What's disconcerting to me is she is hearing things that the doctor never said. For example, the doctor told her yesterday that this treatment will help her and could extend her life. I took that as helping her symptoms and extending her life like he said. Later that night, she told a friend on the phone (I was there) that he said it could cure her. This upsets me, but I don't want to make her think I'm shooting down her hopes if I tell her more?? Which is SO not the case, it's not what I want to do. P.S: She does not use the internet, etc...so she looks to me for information/research. Thank you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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