Darlene Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 Well I have been out for a while, I haven't had much time to even read very many posts much less have the time to respond. Ronnie had a medi-port put in then started chemo the next day. I felt so bad about not being here for the first treatment but I had to be at the state conference on Autism that day. A wonderful friend was able to take him and pick him up. He has done well but I can tell the nausea has really gotten to him. He also seems to be going into a depression and keeps refering to death and how he won't be here for this or that. I am trying hard to keep things as normal as possible and encourage him to keep doing the things that he finds so much enjoyment in. I just have to share this story, then I'll shut up for a while... I was at the grocery store the other day selecting something special to cook for him. When I asked for a pound of the large scallops the lady behind the counter put them in a bag with some ice and was about to hand them to me when she said, "My, those sure are expensive." I just looked at her and said, "They are for my husband, he has lung cancer, and this is his one of his favorite meals, nothing is too expensive for him." and wakled away. When I reached the check out I was trying my best to hold back tears. The checker asked me if I was ok by this point. I explained what had happened at the seafood counter as politely as possible trying to hold back the tears. The checker picked them up looked at them, and without scanning them, put them in a bag with my other groceries. I could not talk by now, but glanced up to catch his name. Beside his name was the word 'Manager.' The next day I wrote him a Thank You note... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eppie Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 Well, welcome to the Cancer boat, Darlene. Let me scootch over to make some room. Good story. I hope he loved the scallops. My daddy in BAytown is gonna get to have some carboplatin too. Looks like your Ronnie has had a tough time for a while.. I am sorry he's got LC. YOu just let us know what's going on. Autism conference? I teach Special Ed. in RI. See, we got another connection going on. You post again and let us know how he's doing. take care, hon. eppie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 Darlene, There IS goodness in this world. ...the kindness of strangers! Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LynneH Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 Kasey said it well......the kindness of strangers, and when we least expect it. Kind of helps us remember to get up in the morning and do it all again. Take care Darlene, Lynne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 That is the kind of thing that gets us by We call it Grace for the moment. We are so blessed. A loving package showed up on our porch again this week. It feels so warm to have true and honest and understanding friends. This forum is Grace for Many Many Moments for us. Love Pat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 Great story! There are many of those out there that unfortunately go untold. Wishing you two well. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leslie221 Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 The little unremembered acts of kindness and love are the best parts of a person's life. William Wordsworth You've warmed my day with that story. Thanks. Sending caring thoughts that the nausea will diminish and/or you'll find a way to bring it under control soon. Leslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trishnmiller Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 These people are my unsung heros. They will never know how far a little kindness will go...see, it made it all the way to this board as a reminder to all of us to be kinder and gentler. Trish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darlene Posted September 18, 2005 Author Share Posted September 18, 2005 Thanks everyone!! I needed that! You know those jokes by Jeff Foxworthy, 'You might be a Redneck?' Well us midwives have running jokes on 'You might be a midwife.' ~If you can discuss the size of a placenta over dinner, you might be a midwife. ~ If you thought KY jelly only comes in half gallon bottles, you might be a midwife. ~ If you hear the word 'Doppler' on the weather news and think of fetal heart tones, you might be a midwife. This weekend however my husband has cornered the market on 'You might be married to a midwife.' His nausea had gotten worse and he needed something to help him through it, he called the doctor and asked for medicine for his 'morning sickness.' They almost fainted! ~eppie~ I have a son with Asperger Syndrome. That conference was great! I have needed much help in dealing with the school. I also have a son with ADHD and one with dyslexia, it's real fun around here...want to visit? (you should see our Family Rule Book) I lived in Baytown for about 7 years that's where three of my boys were born. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leslie221 Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 This weekend however my husband has cornered the market on 'You might be married to a midwife.' His nausea had gotten worse and he needed something to help him through it, he called the doctor and asked for medicine for his 'morning sickness.' They almost fainted! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jang Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 I hope he enjoyed those scallops.... he deserved them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eppie Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 Wow, you lived in BAytown, too. I can't believe what a small world this is! Mom and Daddy will totally be amazed when I tell them about all my new cyber friends praying and wishing them well. The Buddhists have this concept of a prayer wheels spinning thousands of prayers into the universe. I like to think of the internet in the same manner: thousands of prayers and wishes for peace set loose into the cyberspace towards those who are in need. In my mind these prayers manifest themselves in the small acts of kindness just like the one you experienced, Darlene. Peace to all in pain and fear, love from Eppie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted September 19, 2005 Share Posted September 19, 2005 it really is these little acts of kindness that make me have a little faith in the world again. thanks for telling us, Darlene - prayers and good wishes continue. xoxo bunny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted September 19, 2005 Share Posted September 19, 2005 What a great example of kindness and caring. Thanks so much for sharing this story and renewing my faith in mankind! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dchurchi Posted September 19, 2005 Share Posted September 19, 2005 One of the most amazing things Alan and I have discovered during this journey, is just how good people are. When Alan was finally mentally stable (pyscosis due to decadron) we went and had our living wills and dual power of attonerys done. After completing all the necessary forms the attorney simply handed everthing to us and said have a nice day. Charged us nothing for her time. In the grand scheme of things it probably did not cost her very much to complete the forms, but it meant everything to Alan and I. So many beautiful people in this world. we need to hear more about these types of stories. Love and prayers to everyone who are on this unfortunate journey. Debbie husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 How cool! I love the positive focus of your story. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted September 21, 2005 Share Posted September 21, 2005 Darlene. thanks for that story. It helps to know how good people can be. We all need reminders of what good there is in this world! Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elkiesmom Posted September 21, 2005 Share Posted September 21, 2005 Darlene What a wonderful story. Lorrie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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