Guest Nicoletta8 Posted October 3, 2005 Share Posted October 3, 2005 My name is Nikki and my dad was just diagnosed with stage iv cancer which started in his lung and has metastasized to his bones (femur, pelvis, spine & ribs). The doctor basically said he could do chemo which would buy him 2-3 months or call hospice. My dad decided against chemo (his choice which we support). He had no symptoms other than pain in his hip and leg area. This was a complete shock to all of us and I still don't really know what to think, feel or act. Luckily my husband and I live very close to my parents and can be there for them. I am so glad I found this board where I can ask questions and talk with others who are in similar situations. Anyway, I just wanted to introduce myself and get familiar with the ways of the board. Thanks. Nikki Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea Posted October 3, 2005 Share Posted October 3, 2005 I am so sorry you had to find us, but welcome to the family. You will find a lot of daugthers and sons in the same boat as you. Look forward to hearing more from you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted October 3, 2005 Share Posted October 3, 2005 Welcome Nikki~ I am an only child too. In addition to my husband, my MIL also has NSCLC. She decided she did not want chemo but she did do radiation. She has had no problems at all and it has bought her some time. She is 84 so maybe your dad would consider radiation. You could also ask about Tarceva, which is a pill. Good luck. Rochelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathy Posted October 3, 2005 Share Posted October 3, 2005 Welcome Nikki, I am glad you found us too...Like Katie said ask away, there are so many here that you will find have situations similar to yours..Everyone here is always more than willing to help out....They are a great bunch of people... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darci Posted October 3, 2005 Share Posted October 3, 2005 Nikki, I am so sorry to hear about your dad. You must be so scared and confused right now. The terrific people here will help you through!! I don't have much experience or wisdom to share, as we are new to this as well. I hope that we can help! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 Hi Nikki. So sorry you are dealing with cancer in your life. This is the best place to be for information, support and lots of hugs. Just jump right in and join our wonderful group of friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 My wife is home and going to school. She takes a pill form of Etopocide. Might be something to think about. No trips to hospital for chemo. Just a thought though. Good luck and hope we can help Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eppie Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 I am glad you found us. Let us know how it is going from time to time, ok. YOu are not alone. Strength to all inthis battle, Eppie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 Welcome Nikki-You will find so much support as well as many answers here- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
staceyabee Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 Hi Nikki, I can completely relate to what you're dealing with. I just lost my dad. He was stage iv as well with cancer in the bones and liver. Don't worry about knowing what to feel. You are probably still in shock. I would just advise you to spend as much time with your dad as possible, tell him how much you love him and cram in as much love as possible. Sounds like you've got a rough road ahead of you. Also, it may be difficult, but you need to have some tough discussions with your dad about ventilators, extraordinary means, etc. I'm sorry to bring this up, but my dad went so quickly, we never had time to learn his wishes and had to guess what he would want. I think we did the right thing, but it would've been much easier to know for sure what Dad would've wanted. I'll pray for your family and for strength for you all to get through this ordeal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephi Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 Nikki, this is such a hard blow to deal with..but as everyone said..be with him as much as possible..love, laugh and make those lasting memories... take pictures and talk about other better, happier times that he remembers..have him tell stories if he is up to it, of your youth and what mean the most to him. make sure to check into hospice around you. Interview them and find the one that is right for your Dad. Sending you hugs of comfort and courage.. Stephi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 We all know how you feel in one way or another. Shock, dismay, asking why, anger, fear... been there, doing that. You have come to the right place. You and your dad are in our prayers. Vicky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted October 15, 2005 Share Posted October 15, 2005 You've been through a tough road already. I hope you can find some answers, support, and hope here. Take care of yourself through all of this, and keep us posted. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted October 15, 2005 Share Posted October 15, 2005 Welcome Nikki. Rich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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