Laura Ann Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 The doctor again told Bill that it's time to bring in Hospice Is Bill opposed to calling Hospice? Is this something you have talked about? What ever the answer might be I think it is very important to respect the patients wishes regarding Hospice. I think a lot of people equate Hospice to "the end of the line". I know that's the way it is perceived my most people I know. I admire the love and devotion you have shown for your husband. I'm so sorry this has happend to your family. Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 Dear Beth, I, too like Kasey, read your post and left a number of times. No words can adequately tell you how sad I am for you and Bill and your family. Somehow, we keep on keeping on. I don't know how and can't give you any words of wisdom. Just know that I am thinking about you and wish there was something that we could do that would make this 'all better'. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dchurchi Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 Beth, I have no great words of wisdom, only those of support and prayer for what you are going through. When I go to Church tomorrow I will add your family to our prayer book, so know that many people will be praying for you. I hope that gives you a small comfort. Debbie Husband Alan DX with small cell lung cancer Jan 10th 2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 Everyone had said all I would have said...what else is there to say. I found this quote, I thought it was beautiful: What the caterpillar calls the end, the rest of the world call a Butterfly. Lao Tsu Hope it brings you some comfort. Praying for you and your family, Vicky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 Beth,I like some of the others here had to walk away befoe posting a reply. I am able to very much relate to this as I have been told numerous times on this journey that I only have 3 months left.This has been going on quite some time now and every time I hear it I still go thru all the same worries and concerns. I'm so sorry you and Bill are having to deal with all this too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tnmynatt Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 Beth, Don't know what to say. I can feel your pain. During Charlie's recent treatments, I had a lot of anxiety from fear of something going wrong. It was painful just considering it. I have also struggled with my 12 yr. old daughter and 15 yr. old niece not realizing how serious things are at our house, too. It's a fine line we walk--keeping them in good spirits vs. not surprising them. I will be praying for you both. From my past experience, I really believe in Hospice, also. Let them help you all out. If you need someone to talk to, please PM me. I will call you back. Take care. Love, Tina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
richinsdakota Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 So sorry ur going thru this hard time...hope u get lots of help and strength to deal with it...take care..Rich B. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 I believe hugs, kisses and looking at each other says all that needs to be said. My best to you both. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 Beth: your post was poignant, beautiful, compelling gripping. You and your husband and your children have my prayers. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted October 12, 2005 Share Posted October 12, 2005 Oh Beth, my God I don't have the words... I am feeling your pain and wishing there was anything, something I could do to help you through this. What struck a chord with me was the fact that your youngest boy thought Daddy was "cured"... and you felt like you did a diservice to him by him not realizing the ramifications of this damn disease. I feel you did just the opposite. You allowed him to live in the innocence that is childhood for a little while longer. You allowed him to enjoy his days with his Daddy without thinking this could be the last one... what a truly WONDERFUL gift you gave your son. The gift of hope. The normalcy that was felt in your house must have been immense... and what a credit that is to you and Bill. I know it is horrible to see Bill suffering. Daddy use to say to me all the time "Do you think Mommy will be alright".... "I just need to know she will be alright"... and it sounds like that is what your Bill is doing.... his concern is for you, what a great love the two of you must have for one another. Beth, as hard as it is for you, let Bill know you will be okay... let him know that it is alright for him to be at peace and you know that he will never be far away. He will always be there to guide you. It is important that he have that thought in his mind... it is your final gift to him. I am so, so sorry.... I am praying for you all and I am here if you need me. Love, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addie Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 Oh, Beth honey...I wish there was something I could say that is curative. I wish this wasn't happening to Bill or to you or your children. I wish I had words...and I just don't. But know you're all in my heart and my head and I hope for things to turn around. The way you care for Bill is so exceptional and I can only hope and wish that you get more time together to share and make memories. I'm just so sorry about how things have taken this terrible turn. Truly...it's hard to find words to say that might be of some comfort. I just feel an enormous sadness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy RN Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 Like all the others I DO feel your pain. I know the feeling of wanting to give them ANYTHING they want. I try so hard to get my hubby to listen to what needs to be done when I am gone. He will not listen. If anyone reads this please listen to the one with the cancer and let them know you appreciate that they are worried about how you will handle things when they are gone. That is my only fear. Prayers with you!! Love Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellen B. Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 Oh Beth, I don't know what to say, this must be so hard! You and your family are in my thoughts and in my prayers. Ellen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 Beth, I read your post on the morning of the second anniversary of Mike's death, your post did not depresse me, just made me realize how strong we can be when we are loved and needed. I pray for both of you and your family and wish you good days ahead. Love J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kitkathi Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 Beth, Bill reminds me so much of my dad (whose name was also Bill). He was so worried about mom. He kept on apologizing to her saying he was so sorry that he was going to leave her. He wanted to stay alive long enough to pay off the house and car, which he did. Even when he could hardly breathe and was on full oxygen, he was calling the insurance company from the hospital to make sure that hospice was covered under his plan. He wanted to make sure mom didn't have to pay. He never made it to hospice. My dad remained unselfish. When asked what we could do for him, all he wanted was some old fashioned hard candy to suck on....that is it. You have a wonderful man and YOU are a wonderful woman. I am thinking about you and praying for your entire family. Prayers, Kathi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jang Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 Beth, My heart is just breaking for you and your family. Please don't feel guilty about your son. You are only one person, and you can't be everywhere, all the time. Please know that I am praying for you, Bill and your children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 Hi Beth, I along with so many here was taken back by your post. I also had to walk away and try to pull myself together to express my feelings to you. I feel so helpless that I cannot help change things. My heart breaks for your both. I could only tell you that your love for each other shows though all your postings. You both share such a special relationship that will be there through-out eternity. Please know that you both are in my prayers along with your family. I pray for Bill to be pain free and at peace. You have such a dominant presence on this board, that there are mega prayers sent to you both. I am lighting a candle for him and you. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melindasue37 Posted October 13, 2005 Share Posted October 13, 2005 Beth, I'm so, so sorry. Your post brought tears to my eyes. It just breaks my heart to know the pain you are enduring right now. I will say a special prayer for you and your family. Hugs, Melinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted October 15, 2005 Share Posted October 15, 2005 So very sorry to hear that Beth about Bill. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Rich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted October 15, 2005 Share Posted October 15, 2005 I have always admired your strength and courage, Beth. All of my prayers are going to you and Bill and the kids. love, Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 Beth, Heartfelt prayers, for you, for Bill, for the boys, for the girls... XOXOXOX MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma's kid Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 I just don't know what to say other than please know that you and your husband are in my prayers. Reading your post brought tears to my eyes as I can feel the love and caring in your words...the anguish too. Blessings to you all. Libby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hopeandstrength Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 My heart is breaking for you. Please know that you are a wonderful wife and mother. You have done everything right. My thoughts are with your family. Cathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patkid Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 Brian is asking me about Bill and our bartender everytime he opens his eyes. Prayers continue. Love Pat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted October 18, 2005 Share Posted October 18, 2005 Beth, Just wanted to tell you I am still thinking about you. I know nothing any of us can do can change the situation, but know how much we love you and hold you dear to our heart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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