grief

[Guest jodycalabro]

I spent two years caring for my mom and she lost her battle April 13, 2005. I am still having so many problems coping with grief. She fought long and hard and I know that she is finally at rest in the arms of the Lord. I attended a grief workshop through hospice and was doing okay, but the grief comes back and takes hold so easily. I have not regrets just a profound sense of loss. Is this a normal reaction?

I found this site just a few days before my mother passed away and wish I had found it sooner.

Mom had stage IV adenocarcinoma and wasa treated with cisplaitin and navelbine, then taxotere, radiation, 2 other chemo drugs and Iressa before the complications began and after 3 hospital stays and 3 bouts with fluid and drainage of the lungs, she ended treatment in October last year and rallied quite well from the first week in December until just 3 days before she died. She had been on oxygen since November.

Please let me know if you have experienced this as well. Also, I would like to do something to raise some money during LC awareness month. Any suggestions?

Thanks so much.

jody calabro

[Kasey]

Jody,

I, too, wish you had found this site earlier. So many here would have, could have, offered you support.

At this time I have no ideas for you. I just want you to know that I will be thinking of you wishing you to find some peace.

Do not hesitate to come and seek our support and cring.

Kasey

[nancy c]

Jody, I am so sorry for your pain, I feel I know what you do somewhat feel. I lost my husband to lc in June, and the longer it is..it seems the more pain I am feeling. I try to keep busy, working and being with my adult kids, traveling,etc. But... nothing will ever be the same...and that is what is hardest to handle. I wish you peace and comfort. Hang in there...I know we can get though this. Millons of people have. But, not without the hurt in our hearts. God bless,Nancy

[Ann]

I am so very sorry for the loss of your mom. I know the pain you are experiencing. I do believe that it's fairly common for a patient to seem to be recovering just a few days before the end. I think that is one of the things Hospice warned me about to avoid getting my hopes up at the end. I guess the old phrase "Better Late Than Never" applies to you and this board. I wish you would have found us sooner but I am so glad you are here now. As for fund raising ideas...our Katie is the best to talk to for ideas. She is so creative and has a ton of great ideas!