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Thanks, everybody for all the advice to help Tim stop smoking. I think Katie's advice-make him plan his funeral-was the one that did it. This is his 4th day with no cigs. He's not as congested and doesn't cough as much--big suprise there! :?

Now he is not acting like a child and trying to hide his smoking and "get away with something". Or maybe it didn't count if I couldn't see him smoking. Instead of thinking of me as the enemy trying to catch him, he's thinking of me as a partner to help him quit. Quite a difference in attitude.

I feel much more hopeful now. That was the worst part--having my hope for a cure taken away. Thanks again, guys.

Annie

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Oh ANNIE! I am so happy for you both. Please know that I firmly believe that my dad has outlived his prognosis because he DID quit smoking.

I am SO PROUD of TIM!!! and proud of you too for sticking to your guns!

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I am having a lot of frustration in the area of smoking and drinking, in regards to my father. He's been down to about 2 to 3 cigs a night since his dx in May, 2001, but he can't, or just won't quit. He also drinks some nights quite heavily (vodka tonics). His excuse is he can't get to sleep. We've told him to ask his doctor for sleep medications, but, hypocritically, he doesn't want to get hooked on them. He's so stubborn sometimes, and it's making all of us crazy! Don't know what to try with him. I do want to build a relationship with his doctor, but he tries to keep the doctor at arms length from the family. I need help!

Kitty

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Kitty,

you need to (Dr. Phil) get REAL with your dad about the situation he is in. You need to statistically SCARE him into the reality that he is in and let him know how SERIOUS this disease is....consider the mortality rate of otherwise "healthy" folks with lung cancer...then add in the smoking and drinking..... Ask your dad if he wants to live....if the answer is yes...then he needs to FIGHT....and that includes STOPPING the cigarettes and alcohol.

My dad was given 4 months to live....so he continued to smoke for 6 weeks after his diagnosis..... Combine his smoking and the chemo and it was like a heavyweight boxing fight inside his body....everytime he took treatment to help...the carcinogens in his body fought back!! Dad landed in the hospital in December and they said he would NEVER come home...The chemo treatments were SO hard on his body.

Well guess what...that week without smoking did the trick...dad got better...and he never smoked another cigarette again. Once he stopped smoking-- doing chemo wasn't as bad anymore...his body took it much better...he went NED three times and even when he died his lungs were CLEAR from cancer.

I firmly believe that with a positive outlook, proactive medical care and STOPPING smoking...he lived 8 MORE goods months longer than his original diagnosis. Just think if he did not have any mets, or develop brain + bone mets all at the same time...he'd still be alive.

I want your dad to LIVE> I know how much you do too....TALK to him, arm yourself with information and then really talk to him.

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Annie,

Just wondering, how have things been going with Tim trying to kick the habit?

Kitty

Thanks, everybody for all the advice to help Tim stop smoking. I think Katie's advice-make him plan his funeral-was the one that did it. This is his 4th day with no cigs. He's not as congested and doesn't cough as much--big suprise there! :?

Now he is not acting like a child and trying to hide his smoking and "get away with something". Or maybe it didn't count if I couldn't see him smoking. Instead of thinking of me as the enemy trying to catch him, he's thinking of me as a partner to help him quit. Quite a difference in attitude.

I feel much more hopeful now. That was the worst part--having my hope for a cure taken away. Thanks again, guys.

Annie

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