hollyanne Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 Well, I have been in Utah for over a month and really need to go home to San Francisco for a few days...I need clothes, need to see my husband and need to get away. I can't believe how stressed out I am! Both my dad and brother are here in Utah...I guess it is time for them to learn how to help my mom (?) I keep thinking that this new baby is going to be here in 4-5 weeks, and I won't be able to do EVERYTHING then. Am I crazy to feel anxious about leaving? I may be losing my mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 Hollyanne, You are not losing your mind, you just love your Mother and want to make sure she gets the best possible care. But you need some clean clothes (just teasing). You need to see your husband and take care of yourself for a few days. Your Dad and brother will rise to the occasion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 of course you're not crazy. if I knew how to link to my old posts I'd show you what wreck I was just go on vacation for a week! it's normal, but you have to go. it's good for you and, therefore, good for mom. have a great trip. xoxo amie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 Hollyanne So, do you think you might be having some "nesting instincts" going on that are conflicting? Listen to mother nature. She is so wise. Go and do what you need to do. love Cindi o'h Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 Go home and have your baby...all will be well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 Holly, your mom will be fine. At least she is not alone. You dad and brother will make due, believe me. I just wish you were staying longer than 2 days. You need time to unwind and be less stressed. It is not good for the baby to be so stressed out. You need Holly time. And Holly time is being with her husband and planning for the arrival of your baby. Please relax and enjoy your visit home. You are an incredibly wonderful daughter. You mom is so lucky to have you by her side. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted November 5, 2005 Share Posted November 5, 2005 Have a good trip, your mother will be fine. Enjoy and relax. Hugs J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted November 5, 2005 Share Posted November 5, 2005 I agree with amie and maryanne--it's good for you, so it is therefore good for your mom. She needs you to be healthy and keep taking care of that baby! I've been amazed how much everyone else steps up when I remember to step back. Take good care of yourself! Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carolhg Posted November 5, 2005 Share Posted November 5, 2005 Please do what you need to do to take care of yourself, not to mention your mother's grandchild. Your dad and brother will do what needs to be done. Prayers, Carol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted November 6, 2005 Share Posted November 6, 2005 Hey, have a good trip Hollyanne. A short absence will give you the opportunity to put your head into a different space for a while. I would expect that anyone's mind would be going a million miles an hour when contemplating leaving the care of a loved one to others for a short while. This will be a good opportunity for your dad and brother to work out a system to use when you are not as avaliable due to the impending birth of your baby. Just go ahead and attend to your needs at home. After a while you will be able to relax. I think your dad and brother will do just fine. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nushka Posted November 6, 2005 Share Posted November 6, 2005 Holly, Try to relax a little and enjoy being with your husband. I wish it could be for more than 2 days. You need to rest and take care of that baby as well as yourself. Nina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carleen Posted November 6, 2005 Share Posted November 6, 2005 Holly, Enjoy this return home and try and take some time for you. You need to be healthy and strong not only for your sake, but also to be able to be there for your mom and her first grandchild. I know that must be something that is really special and important to her. Your father and brother also love your mom, and will do all in their power to make sure she gets all the care and support she needs while you take care of those things you must. So, you feel like you might not be able to do EVERYTHING. That is not uncommon for an expectant mother. You are about to change your entire world and experience and be responsible for so many new and scary things. But for you that feeling is doubled in that you must be feeling that emotion and stress at the expected arrival, as well as those same feelings associated with the new and scary experiences you are going through with your mom. Just remember, you are a wonderful loving daughter who will do the best you can in all things. That is the best you can expect and the most you can ask for. You can't do everything, you are only human, but since you are acting out of love, what you do will be amazing, and for those things you can't do you must have faith that those around you will pick up the difference and give you support. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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