Leslie221 Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 Lung cancer is the first life-threatening event I've survived. But I've survived all sorts of things throughout life - and, at the time, I thought I might never survive these things. They were "the end of the world" at the time. And now they are experiences from my past I can remember or not. They don't control my life today. Let's share some examples and remind ourselves we've been through rough stuff before and came out just fine. 1) My high-school boyfriend of 3 years went into the air force. I thought I'd never survive losing him. 2) I was just sure I'd get a coveted promotion; lots of support and "hints" throughout the interview process. When my boss called and said they'd chosen someone else, I was devestated and humiliated. 3) The first time I had to be the one to take a pet to the vet to be put to sleep. I thought I'd never stop crying and feeling like I "murdered" my best friend. I can look back on these things now from quite a safe distance. I laugh at the first one. But I remember how scared and hopeless and helpless I felt then. And, I realise, life is survival in one form or another from the moment you're conceived. Leslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 1) Lost my parents within a year of each other when I was only 23-24. Went on to marry, go to graduate school, have three kids, start my career as research chemist. 2) Lost my sister and my mother-in-law, both of whom I loved dearly, within a month in 1993. Began my retirement, and became a massage therapist. 3) Older son and first wife divorced, with two small children. Had to learn to cope with split family. Son remarried two years later, and we learned to merge family cultures again. 4) Diagnosed with Stage II prostate cancer in 1995. Had radiation. Learned a lot about coping with cancer and helping others with cancer. Took each of my three adult kids, one at a time, on a short vacation to enjoy time together. 5) Had heart attack, and quadruple bypass surgery. Became a volunteer lay chaplain with my wife and visited people in the hospital with heart ailments or cancer. We did that for five years. 6) Recurrence of prostate cancer. Had seed implants. Chose to have artificial sphincter put in to stop incontinence. Continued to help other men with prostate cancer. 7) Lost my brother in 1998. Have drawn closer to his family. Wife diagnosed with Stage IV NSCLC in Oct. 2002. Learned a lot about caregiving and patient advocacy. Continue to learn and share with others. 9) Stent put into another cardiac artery in April this year. Undaunted. I know this is a lot, but, heck, people, I've lived longer than all of you. Ha! Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geri Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 My survival started 3 weeks after my 16th birthday, My 21 year old brother died from a heart attack (he had been born with congenital heart deformaties) and 12 days later my mom died from stomach cancer. My dad died from lung cancer when I was 23, just 2 months after I married. I have had a blood clot in my leg and many other, non-life threatening, surgeries and illnesses AND I've had lung cancer. Am I Survivor? You bet your arse I am and I'm proud to say that all these things have made me what I am......a Survivor with a capital S. Geri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 I, like Katie, am not a lung cancer survivor, but you better believe I am a survivor. My father died when I was 7. I got married at 19, had 2 children and was divorced at 22. No education, no money, no alimony, no child support, no car, no washer or dryer. But we not only survived, we thrived. My mother died when I was 26. A nephew died in 1990, another in 1996 and yet another in 2002. My one sister died in 1994 and my only other sister in 2004, just 3 months before my dear Earl. Earl died in 2004 (the worst of all to survive) and my good friend died 2 days later. Am I happy about all of this - nope. But it is the hand I was dealt and it has only strengthened my relationships with my children and my friends. Each day is absolutely, positively a gift. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jyoung20 Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 I think the more you overcome the stronger you become. - My mamaw passed as I watched her take her last breath from cancer that started in her gall bladder. - My step-mother was killed in a tractor accident. - My good friend and co-worker, Cassandra, died of ovarian cancer at age 32. - My little boy was in NICU for eight days after he was born with a very severe respiratory infection. - My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. - My FIL passed away from heart failure. - My dad was diagnosed with colon cancer. GOD BLESS!! Jamie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 Some of you have said you are not a survivor of lung cancer, but if you are a primary caregiver of one with lung cancer, I would say, "You, too, are a survivor of lung cancer." I certainly consider myself an LC survivor though I have not had the disease myself. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leslie221 Posted November 30, 2005 Author Share Posted November 30, 2005 Absolutely, Don! If you've been through this with a loved, you are a LC survivor. Absolutely. Feel free to share in this discussion. BTW, I'm proud to be part of such a tough group! Leslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted November 30, 2005 Share Posted November 30, 2005 When I was 7 my little sister died from a strep infection, she was 18 months old. Our family was not the same after that. In college, I contracted endocarditis from a dental cleaning. Unfortunately it took them weeks to diagnosis it and I almost died. I spent 3 months in a hospital hooked to IV antibiotics. I left the hospital weighing 85 lbs. I was with my father when he died in 1980. I lost my favorite Grandmother shortly afterwards. Then two years ago I got endocarditis again and spent a week in the hospital with an IV. I got to go home hooked to a PICC line and have antibiotics at home for six weeks (dentists are not my friends). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
midge Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Okay, Heres my story! Met and fell inlove with my husband at age 15 engaged at 16 pregnant at 17, quit school, got married had baby. Had another baby at 20 went back to school at 21 went to nurses training age 27 raised my kids have two wonderful grandboys still married to the same wonderful person 34 years later lung cancer is just one more thing to overcome Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 I was welcomed to the world of "Put on your big girl panties and deal with it" to the nth degree beginning in 2003. Throughout growing up there were ups and downs, but nothing like what 2003 would do for me. In late January I was diagnosed with lung cancer. A week later, one of my grandmothers died. She was buried the day of my surgery. My mother was diagnosed with diabetes. My favoritest person in the whole world, my Grampa, was diagnosed with cancer of the bile duct. It was decided he would have no treatment. My father was diagnosed with cancer and had surgery. My grandfather died. My grandmother (his wife, above) had a triple bypass. A good friend of my husband was killed in a deer-motorcycle accident just hours after we saw him for the first time in almost a year. My uncle died of lung cancer, after having surgery and beginning chemo (no blood relation). One of the greatest guys I ever knew in high school died just after Thanksgiving - suddenly, and in his sleep. I had to have my dog put to sleep. Now, prior to the year from hell, I lost another beloved dog, another grandfather, my father had a triple bypass, I went through a divorce, I had a good job with a sucky supervisor and all those other things that can taint a person's view on life, but I figure that if I made it through 2003, I can make it through anything...and I also learned that cancer is not the worst news a person can ever receive. ...and here I am, in my big girl panties, dealing with it. I AM a survivor, I have no doubt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 My Father Died When I Was Nine Years Old--Hardest Part Growing Up Without A Father Figure. My Grandmother Died--Who Was My Second Favorite After My Father. And Along The Way Had A Few Bumps In The Road Like Anyone Else. Bottom Line To Me Is This Is What Life Is All About. Things Are Going To Happen--Good, Bad, And Indifferent. Everyone Is A Survivor In There Own Way. I Still Say To This Day To Everyone Don't Feel Sorry For Me--I’m Still One Lucky b*stard, Always Could Be Worse. Spleen (Immune [idiopathic] Thrombocytopenia Purpura.) Removed 1979--Took Them Several Months To Finally Figure Out What Was Wrong. Heart Attack 1992 Heart Attack/Treble By-Pass 1995 Lung Cancer 2002 Congestive Heart Failure 2002 Catherization And Stent/Left Main Trunk 2002 Biopsy/Lungs 2002 Colonoscopy 2002 Heart Attack 2004 Catherization 2004--Artery To Small To Stent Sleep Apnea 2004 AADD (adult Attention Deficit Disorder) 2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leslie221 Posted December 8, 2005 Author Share Posted December 8, 2005 When I started this thread, I didn't realize I was going to need to re-read all these lessons of survivorship for myself so soon. Re-read them tonight and I want to thank all of you who shared because I'm that much stronger tonight! Good to know I can come here - or other forums - any time, day or night for a reminder that reality is often very much better than we think. Leslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daggiesmom Posted December 8, 2005 Share Posted December 8, 2005 You sure are a survivor. We're behind you 100%. We all go thru alot in life, but remember how strong you are. You CAN DO IT. Find your inner peace and go with it. You're the best. Joanie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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