mamasbabygirl Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 I responded to Donna's post under the grieving section. Let's start a list of grief coping strategies.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Stay busy, especially a busy that occupies your mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 So far my best strategy has been, take a zanex and go to bed..Maybe you guys have a solution for my biggest problem..Mark has a beautiful hair salon, Mark Anthony Salon..He left it to me, because we would be there evry day together for the last 18 years and I know the business..His station was right in the middle of the shop, as you walk in..Of course, he was the STAR.. Now it is empty and all I do is look at it all day, with the empty chair and all his things still on the counter..Can any one think of something I can do to make this station less upsetting to me.. I already offered it to the other hairdressers, and they don't want to switch theirs..I feel like this is making it worse looking at a shrine all day.. I would appreciate any suggestions.. I think this is the biggest problem I have, being there all day with out Mark.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 hire a new stylist? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Cindi, We tried that..it is very hard up here to get good people..The salon is an upscale salon, the girls are all very experiences 15 plus years each..Maybe just take his chair away and put plants on his counter?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Just another silly thing that bothers me all day..I know i am being foolish, and it will get better..I guess I am hoping for a miracle over night..I know grief takes time, but I wish the time would pass quickly and I know that is not possible..You guys make me realize more and more each day..I am grateful for that.. Hugs to all my (((((friends)))) here... Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindi o'h Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 that sounds good, Donna. Try that. It may be a temporary solution. Or become permanent. But, treat it as a temporary solution for now. Call a local service oriented florist to come to design something very tasteful. Cindi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Or Donna, make it your station now in honor of your dear brother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted December 1, 2005 Author Share Posted December 1, 2005 Wow, what good ideas. You guys rock. I think you should make it a special place as well, something that reinforced your happy memories of him or something that was imporant to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 I guess my brother helped me out with this one..One of his hairdressers is going to take over his station..Thanks mark!! I don't have to worry about this any longer, the problem is solved..Thanks guys for all the great suggestions..I guess they really do watch over us, and help us from heaven.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 just another wacky idea - put it out at a cancer center or something that you're doing low-cost makeovers for people undergoing treatment and ask the other stylists to volunteer to do them? maybe one a day? in Mark's chair. I know some people having chemo won't have hair...just an idea, to honor him somehow. where's the salon, Donna? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 Bunny..The salon is in the Pocono's, pa..mark worked on 57th and 5th Ave for 20 years..he used to do all the movie stars, Ford models, Elite Models, etc..He has quite the bio..He moved to pa., 18 yeras ago and when they all heard where he was from, and the beautiful work he did his name was bigger than life in Pa..I see you are from NYC, where? Mark loved the city with a passion, we used to go back for plays, dinner, etc..I miss it as well..Ironically he died back in NY, the city he loved so much.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 ah. I knew he'd been a NYer at some point. I live in Astoria, work in midtown. I would've come by with some flowers. xoxo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted December 1, 2005 Share Posted December 1, 2005 I have family in astoria, the name is Parrino..Nice to meet a fellow New Yorker.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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