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I want to warn everyone this is not a happy story, but at the same time I am hoping a family member/caregiver can take something from this story that helps them cope with their current situation. I know it open my eyes even further.

my sister called me late last night (never a good thing when the phone rings at night). She was crying uncontrolably. When I finally got her calmed down enough she told me what happened.

A good friend of my oldest niece was killed in a car accident. In an innocent act of teenage bravado, Rianna was racing her boyfriend when she lost control of her car and slammed into a tree. In an instant her life was over. She was only 16. I just saw her last Friday night at the high school football game (she was a cheerleader). Rianna had her whole life ahead of her.

God has given us another example of just how fragile life is. Like so many caregivers on this board I have search for the unanswerable question. How much time does Alan have? The truth is no one single person on this earth knows how much time we have. The time and energy wasted on searching for that answer is better spent with your loved ones. I realize that more than ever.

So from here on foward I will do the best I can to live in the moment for it is this moment that I have. I will cheerish every minute, hour and day I have Alan with me, and do it all again tomorrow.

I hope this post helps just one family member/caregiver to accept that know one knows how long your loved one has and to just enjoy them today. Maybe then Rianna's untimely death would have served a small purpose.

My heart, hugs and prayers to everyone on this board who has help me along this journey. I love each and everyone of you.

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When you hear a story like that one it really does make you realize how precious life is and how fast it can be taken away. It makes you want to cherish each and everyday you have and tell your loved ones how much they mean to you.

My dad's pulmonary doctor always said to my dad "Nobody is guaranteed a tomorrow, so live life to it's fullest each day". He was such a positive doctor and my dad always felt 100% better after leaving his office.

Debbie, I hope you are able to cherish everyday with Alan and I hope there are many, many, many days to be enjoyed!

Thanks for the reminder to enjoy everyday because we just never know what tomorrow will bring.


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