kim Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 Well, tomorrow I go up to my dad's house for Christmas morning; the first there without mom and as if it won't be hard enough, I have to sit and here my brother call her Mom! I know I should get over it, but I just think it is disrespectful to my mom for him to call dad's new wife mom. I will hold my tongue and keep the peace because I don't know if my sister can! Am I wrong to feel this way?! Oh, well! Merry Christmas Everyone!!!! Quote
Fall54 Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 Very hard, I am sure but best just to keep the peace. Try to enjoy you're day! God Bless, Jane Quote
J.C. Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 Kim, I have no word of advice for you. Just want to wish you a Merry Christmas and a good year 2006. A pasted smile could get you through the day and avoid a fight. Your feelings are yours, don't let them show and the pain you anticipate may be easier. Hugs Jackie Quote
Don Wood Posted December 25, 2005 Posted December 25, 2005 My mom died when I was 24. I married when I was 25 and always called my mother-in-law Mom. I never saw it as a disrespect to my mother. I was fortunate to have two great "Moms" in my life. Don Quote
kim Posted December 27, 2005 Author Posted December 27, 2005 Well,the day went off without a hitch and noone got mad about the "M" word. I think what makes it hard is that my dad and his wife have only been married for 1 month and actually known each other for less than a year. Then, maybe too, it has something to do with me being a daughter and not a son. I sometimes think there is a, let's say "different" bond or relationship between a daughter and mother than she with her son.(I'll probably get some responses for that comment! ) I have only just now, after ten years, begun to call my mom in law "mom". I don't know, it just hurts me for some reason. It's not that I don't like dad's wife, I really do, but I don't think anyone in my family knows her well enough to give her that title, yet. But, it WAS a good Christmas and I just let everything fly over my head and I was better off for it. I just wish I could have convienced my sister Cindy to feel the same way. But then again she is pregnant, need I say more! Thank you all for your support and advice in this manner. I really do apreciate it! Quote
Kasey Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 (((Kim))), Glad it was a better than expected day. I do understand about the "M" word. Remember...it is ONLY a word. It's the sentiment behind it that makes MOTHER so special...not the word itself. Glad you could let some 'stuff' fly over. Hope your new year brings more resolution and happiness and peace. Kasey Quote
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