KarenLa Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 I have not posted much here, in part my father in law was not willing to share his status of his cancer. My James Lang Sr. passed away with all of his children and family at his side at home 2 weeks ago. He got home to start home hospice and 3 days later he passed away. We were able to "care" for him in the hospital, nursing home and then finally his home. Every spare min was spent with him, and now we relaize how important and a blessing that was. The "end" was hard and a fight. He said he changed his mind and was not going to die then a few moments passed and he suddenly announced that his mother was there and he was gone. For those last few days he was asking for God to come and get him and his son whom passed away many many years ago. We did not know at the time of his DX that it was stage 4 and spread to his bones, spine, brain, liver and other places. Up till that last 3 days he refused to even mention his condition, but thanks to this site and all the reading I did, I tried to help and prepare my Husband, we inserted ourselves into his life and spent as much time as possible with him, and for that we are truely grateful. Karen and Rich Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Karen and Rich, my heartfelt sympathies. So sorry for your loss. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KarenLa Posted March 22, 2006 Author Share Posted March 22, 2006 Thank you so much. Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Oh, Karen, I was so blessed by your words. You and Rich were a God-send to Rich's dad. You sound like a wonderful, just wonderful, caring person. I'm so sorry for your loss. God bless you and your family. Love, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Please accept my deepest sympathy to you and your family during your difficult time ahead. peace be with you. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gail p-m Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 I'm so sorry to hear about your father-in-law. My sincere condolences. gail p-m Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 So sorry for your huge loss. I am glad you could spend all the time you wanted. God rest his soul.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 So sorry for your loss.. God Bless You.. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 So Sorry for your loss at this time Many prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Karen, My deepest sympathy on the loss of your father in law. Rich and you did all you could for him since he got sick and even if he was keeping private about his sickness you were there for him. Love and Hugs Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Lamb Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Karen and Rich,I am very sorry for your loss.Wishing you strength and comfort in the coming days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michelepal Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Karen & Rich I'm so sorry for your lose please accept by condolences. It sounds like your Father in law left behind a great family. Take care Michele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Karen and Rich, Please accept my heartfelt sympathies for your loss. May God be with you to help you through this difficult time. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
P.S. I Love You Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Karen & Rich- Our condolences to you. It's good that you were there for him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SBeth Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Karen & Rich, I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope you are comforted in knowing how much you did to help your father-in-law in his fight. Peace, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 So very saddened to read of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lindy Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Please accept my heartfelt sympathies for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carleen Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Karen & Rich I am so sorry for your loss. It is wonderful that he was able to have his family around him and all the love and support you and your husband have given him in caring for him to the end. I pray that God bring you comfort during your mourning and bless you with love and warm memories to ease your pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jorja Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 So sorry for your loss. Many prayers to you and your family. love, jorja Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carolhg Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KarenLa Posted March 23, 2006 Author Share Posted March 23, 2006 Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and words. They mean so much to the whole family. So much of you have faced so many more challenges of cancer then what my Father in Law faced and your compassion is a blessing. My own father died suddenly when I was 13 years old and we had a hole in our daily lives that grew into a lot of despair and grief. When my father in law died that same hole was there, but there were hands reaching across and clasping to one another and filled with love. Michele, my father in law knew everything right to the end, he was fully aware. This gave him the chance of talking to each of his family members. The hospice nurse was able to predict the time remaining so phone calls were made and all that wanted to be there were there. During his final journey home we held hands and prayed the Lord’s Prayer. Peggy, I never prayed so much in my life, and I hope I never stop. There are gifts during such hardships and we as a family want to hold on tight to what we were given. All out lives were changed and for the good. We miss him so. p.s. Most of the family has come down with flu and sickness, we think maybe we were sustained during the hospice and now that it’s over the let down is the reason why we are all sick? Another thing, the family has been so used to rushing to the hospital, doctors appointments and such. Now its quiet, it’s odd and I guess it will go back to normal? Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jyoung20 Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 I am so sorry for your loss!! Please know that we are here for you!! GOD BLESS!! Jamie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dadstimeon Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 I'm very sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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