mamasbabygirl Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 I have to share my good news. SF called me this morning and said he had some ideas. I asked him to shoot. Well, apparently after I had a conversation with my brother this week about how we can do this the easy way and work together or the hard way and tear our family apart (by me getting the medical POA), SF has reconsidered mom leaving that damn nursing home. I am just overwhelmed with joy right now. John and I put a bid on a house this weekend that has a first floor full bath (for MIL) and don't ya know that will work just great for mom too. SF said he was willing to let mom decide how she lives her life, but he just wants to make sure it is safe and doable. I agree wholeheartedly. I am just glad that I can go to mom today and say "Mom, we love you so much that we are ALL willing to pull out all the stops to have you live her life the way you want. Every one of you has given me the courage to continue to advocate for my mom, whether it be with the medical community or my own family. You have given me the strength to continue to do what's right for mom. I love you all. If she takes up our offer, maybe it will be the hardest thing we have ever tried to do, but it is a very welcome challenge. I will update you later with what she has to say. I LOVE YOU ALL. I APPRECIATE YOU ALL. I CAN'T EXPRESS THE GRATITUDE I HAVE FOR RICK AND KATIE FOR MAKING THIS SOUNDING BOARD AVAILABLE FOR EACH OF US. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melindasue37 Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Lori, It is so nice to read this post!!! You deserve to get a call like that from your stepdad. YOU are only trying to do what you think is best for your Mom. What a great daughter you are. I'm praying that everything will begin to fall into place for you and your family and that your Mom will know today, after you talk to her, that things clearly ARE looking up. Congrats to you. What a huge relief huh?!!! Warm Hugs, Melinda PS. Good luck on your new home bid! It sounds perfect. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Lori, So glad for your post and the good news, keep at it and your Mom will have her way. The work will be heavy but with all members going the same way, much easier for you and your Mom. Hugs Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Hi Lori, You post made me smile. I am overwhelmed that your SF finally saw the light and will not cause trouble. You will have a heavy load to carry, but you can do it as you are determined too. Let us know what your mom says. Of course we are here for you as you are always here for us. Thinking or you today, good luck, can't wait to hear you moms reaction Thank G-d she will be leaving that nursing home! G-d bless you for having the strength to take care of both mothers. You are an exceptional young lady. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
purplelady47 Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Your post made me do the happy dance! I have been in awe of your strength when reading your posts. What a great daughter, caregiver and friend you have been to your Mom!! :::major applause::: Pam in FL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 I am so happy for you all! This is great. Good luck on the house. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bethluvswill13 Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 So Glad! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Lori, that is great news. I sounds like everyone is pulling together now. Don M Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darci Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Lori, this is such great news. It sounds like you have some good plans for your mom, and that your family will work together to make it work. You are a terrific daughter - you have the strength and courage in you - we are just here for support. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Go, Lori! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daggiesmom Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Wonderful to hear this great news! You rock, girl! What a wonderful daughter you are. Give Mom a big hug and tell her to keep fighting. We're all behind her. Joanie ((())) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Makes being here worthwhile hearing such Great news. Many prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MilliBr1 Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Great news Lori! Hope you get the house. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dchurchi Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Lori, you are such a fighter for your mom. I admire your strength in wanting to be sure your mom lives her life to the fullest extent. Many prayers coming your way that everything works out how you want it to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carleen Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Such great news Lori. I'm glad to hear that your SF finally came around. It is what I'm sure will make your mom the happiest and bring her the most hope for the future. Good luck with the new house too, how very exciting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma's kid Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 ((((Lori)))) I haven't been posting much but do read your updates regularly and am so happy that things seem to be on the upswing! Good for you for sticking this out and your mom is very lucky to have you for a daughter! hugs, Libby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geri Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 We should all have a kid like you!! That's great news. Geri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tatlyn Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Lori, I am so happy to read your good news!! Keep on keep'n on Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzie Q Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Lori, What a joyous turn of events! I sure hope your bid on the new house is accepted. You will surely be blessed for your good heart. ~Suz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bunny Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 I love to read this Lori. I knew they'd come around!! xoxo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Lori, YOU GO GIRLFRIEND!!! Your mom raised a wonderful daughter!!! Love, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linda661 Posted March 22, 2006 Share Posted March 22, 2006 Awesome news Lori! You really are an inspiration to all of us "up and coming" new caregivers -- I think of you often when I'm not sure how I am gonna' get things done for my mom; your role modelling keeps me going and has "the feathers flying" again in my neck of the woods too as of yesterday ....whatever it takes to make things possible is all that matters! Linda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindy0519 Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Indeed great news Lori! While SF is feeling like he "wants to help" and "do the right thing" I would also approach him with the idea of POA, just in case he has a "change of heart" about what he thinks is best for your mom. Hopefully he is seeing that you have everyones best interest at heart and intend to do what is necessary to allow your mom to live her life to the fullest. Praying that this is a trend that continues for your family!! Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamasbabygirl Posted March 23, 2006 Author Share Posted March 23, 2006 Damn damn damn. SF and brother came to the nursing home tonight after I had visited with mom and told her the good news. When mom asked why the change of heart, he got on the defensive. He mentioned every single drawback and asked if he and my brother should rent an apartment near our new house. What the hell??? They left and mom was sooooooooooooooo sad, depressed, just wanted to sleep. When I asked her what was wrong, she said that he did not say anything like what I had told her and that she thinks he should be more concerned about getting an apartment for her and him, not my brother.. I'll just keep plugging away I guess. DAMN. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stand4hope Posted March 23, 2006 Share Posted March 23, 2006 Dear Lori, she thinks he should be more concerned about getting an apartment for her and him All of this has got to be so hard for you mom. I'm sure at one time she was madly in love with your SF, and she probably still has a soft spot in her heart for him and hopes that things could maybe still be different. She must be feeling very sad that he doesn't offer to take care of her himself and that he is being so difficult. She must feel so torn apart. I think more than anything I wish I could give your mom a big hug right now. I'm not trying to take anything away from you, honey. I know this has been a nightmare for you, too, that you are your mom's best friend right now, best advocate, and the best caregiver ever. I guess I just felt the broken hearted love of a wife in need of love from her husband in those words. Please give your mom a special hug from me. I'm sending a big one for you, too! Love, Peggy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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