ejpritz Posted April 10, 2006 Share Posted April 10, 2006 Two years ago my mother had one lung and some ribs removed. She was told by the surgeon that if she quit smoking she had about a 70% chance of living 10 years or more, and more importantly, living them feeling good. If she decided to keep smoking then the chances of her surviving even two years were small. Well it has been two years and she is still smoking, in fact, it seems more then ever. She is 54 years old. I am 31 years old and smoked for 11 years, almost two packs a say. In September I had my fist asthma attack. It was the scariest most awful thing I have been through. While the Dr. in the emergency room was hooking me up to IV steroids and the nebulizer she told me that if I choose to keep smoking I will develop emphysema and what I was feeling, the gasping for air, the feeling that I was going to die, would be there all the time. I felt terrible for days after and to be honest, I tried to smoke and I could not get any smoke in . I just coughed it up. I kept thinking of what it felt like, being in the hospital and the Dr. telling me that emphysema feels like that, and I made my decision. I quit on September 11 for good. never tried to touch another one. I bought some nicotine gum and have been chewing it and have not looked back. It is very hard for me to look at my mother smoking and not get angry at her. Especially since I have quit and it just makes it seem more possible for her to do it, I tell her how much better I feel every day. I tell her she will feel better too and that she cannot even imagine the difference. but she does not even try. She seems to be very sick again to me. She wakes up with terrible coughing fits again and she wheezes all day long. She gets out of breath walking from the driveway to our front door. I feel terrible about it because I actually am starting to resent her for not trying to quit. Does anyone else have their loved on refusing to quit? How do you deal with it? I am so torn on do I be firm with her and tell her I cannot be a part of her life if she is going to self destruct right in fornt of me? I feel like if she were killing herself with drugs or alcohol people would tell me to cut her out of my life until she hit rock bottom. why should it be different if she is killing herself with cigarettes? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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