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My beloved Dad has gone - unable to grieve


Degten

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Dad died very suddenly from his cerebellum brain mets on the 21st of May. It was incredibly sudden. I has just seen him the previous weekend (he lived in the UK) and although I knew he had little time, the family was hoping for a few more weeks. At least my brother was with him and helped him be a s comfortable as possible in his last 2 days.

To be honest it hasn't hit home. I haven't cried though I adored my Dad who was a really good man, with a stong faith who kept a very positive stance throughout his illness. My siblings have to take care of Mum who is also in shock at the moment which is taking up all of our efforts.

Is this normal? I feel so hollow.

DeDe

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It's very normal.

While we are all individuals who experience grief diffrently, there are some common stages that people go thru, and I've learned, in no particular order.

You may not fully begin to grieve your dad's passing for several weeks or months- when there is a sense of "permenancy" to what has happened,

or because you lived in a different area than he, or you may not have seen him everyday, you may not experience grief until a missed holiday, birthday, or anniversary when you both might've usually been together.

Be kind to yourself. This is so new. Take it one moment at a time.

We will be here for you when you need to vent.

Hugs,

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Fist off, my condolences and Prayers.Second of all, It (Grief) will hit home May not be for a while but it will. when you go to call or send him a note itwill hit and hard Let it come naturally. that is the best I can tell you right now. Shock and rage and grief and disbelief or denial as some call it. Sending prayers for some peace and tranquility in your life and keep us posted on how you are doing OK?

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I am so sorry about your dad. Eternal rest be granted unto him oh Lord, and may Your perpetual light shine upon him always.

The way you are feeling is normal. God gives you strength to get through. Stay close to us...we will help.

Jen

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