cindy0519 Posted July 14, 2006 Share Posted July 14, 2006 I have returned to work this week and I am really finding myself struggling with the well meant things people say or have written in cards. Things like "at least now he is finally at peace" -- "now you can rest and take care of yourself"--"your so strong you'll be fine in no time at all". I know (logically) that these people have very good intent in what they are saying/writing and it is meant to comfort but my heart justs wants to scream ..."yes, he is finally at peace but this doesn't make it any less painful or sad", "I would give up 50++ years of taking care of myself to take care of him for just one more day, hour, minute, even a second", " I don't feel very strong right no and I need time to grieve..its not going to be ok any time soon!" Instead I just smile and thank them for their kind words and thoughts - while I silently scream on the inside. I found this poem and it really speaks volumes, in fact I have thought about printing it off and hanging it in my office... Don't "Don't tell me that you understand Don't tell me that you know. Don't tell me that I will survive, How I will surely grow. Don't tell me this is just a test, That I am truly blessed, That I am chosen for this task, Apart from all the rest. Don't come at me with answers That can only come from me. Don't tell me how my grief will pass That I will soon be free. Don't stand in pious judgment Of the bounds I must untie. Don't tell me how to suffer, And don't tell me how to cry. My life is filled with selfishness, My pain is all I see, But I need you, I need your love, Unconditionally. Accept me in my ups and downs. I need someone to share, Just hold my hand and let me cry, And say, "My friend, I care." Joanetta Hendel, Bereavement Magazine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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