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Hi everyone,

Just thought i'd log on a ramble on a little if that's ok.

I had a hard day today. I cant get my dad out of my mind.

My brother in Australia managed to send a 20 sec video of my dad via his mobile phone. it was great that he did (also a surprise as i didnt think dad would let him!), but it also breaks my heart as I guess i could live in blind ignorance of how he is when all i do is speak to him on the phone.

He is an old, sick man now - my dad - thats not right! He's only 61 for christ's sake!!!!!!!!

I cant function at work and will be going to see my doctor this week, i am already on some SRIIs, but it's all becoming too much - i can handle pressure at work - alot of pressure, but at the moment, i cant concetrate and i need to crawl into a hole for 100 years and sleep (thats how i feel).

Sorry to be a downer, but I just needed to vent some of what is clogging my head at the moment.

Thanks for listening


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When my Mom was diagnosed I lived 2000 miles away--not quite the same as having her on a different continent, I guess... but I felt so very far away from her. I called home everyday, but like you say... it doesn't give you the full picture of what is going on. And when you do get that full picture--whether you've been anticipating it or not--it is just quite a blow.

I'm so sorry that things are stressful at work as well. Just keep plugging. Keep coming here when you need to vent. Know that we get it and we care.


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I can't imagine how hard it must be to be far away. I know each time my brother came to see mom he was quite shocked. It never really hit him that mom was leaving us until the very last.

I am so sorry you are hurting, I can realte to the crawling in bed and sleeping for a very long time. I still feel that way.

I pray for peace in your heart.

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I definitely understand not being able to focus at work. It was nearly impossible for me and my job is pretty intense. I have been at my job for 6 years, never any errors, but made two in the past 3 months and my job is on the line bc of it. I know you are struggling big time with not being able to go to Oz, but is there any way you can go? I don't know if it would help or not, but it sounds like it might. It is so hard to know the right time.

We do get it and it sucks. I'm sorry this is happening. Prayers my dear..

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Hi Chris.

I totally get what you are saying. I feel exactly the same way. I want to hide somewhere where I don't have to deal with any of this and just sleep until things are normal again. My mom is only 62 and she is a young 62 at that. Sometimes I selfishly wish that I did live far away because it's not easy being with her and watching her deteriorate every day. She has been in the hospital now for 16 weeks and it is very tiring for everyone.

I hope your doctor can help you. I was planning on calling my doctor today as well. We sound like we have very similar circumstances, the only difference being that you are far away and I am close.

Take care and good luck

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Guest migizicny

Hi Chris. I know what you are feeling. I live 1000 miles from my Dad. It is so hard to be away from him, not to mention I am his health care power of attorney, as I am the oncology RN of the family!

Work is tough to handle also. I have taken significant time off since this all started in June. Dad is on week 3 of hospitalization for pain and I just came home after being there 15 days.

We still need to get on for the rest of our families, but it is so difficult to try and focus. Keep your chin up and allow others to help you.


Lisa :lol:

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When mom was diagnosed Sep 5, I told my boss to let his boss know. And told him I will do my best during this time. (my issue a bit different b/c I was the one who would take mom to appts).

Mom left us Oct 5. I will be returning to work Oct 16. My boss came to the wake, told him I'd be back, and will be doing the best I can.

I know bosses are sometimes not understanding, but it's hard to blame you when you are being as up front as you can about the situation.

So just speak to him and HR dept if you have one. Best of luck and I am so sorry you are dealing with all this.

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