Guest Posted September 16, 2003 Share Posted September 16, 2003 My mother in law is completely bedbound now, she has gone downhill so much in the last 2 weeks we fear that the end is very close. She makes remarks sometimes when she's tired at night like, "i think i'm giving up" My husband and I have put our jobs and lives on hold for now to be with her - we have a hospital bed in the living room and Hospice is coming every day to bath her (thank goodness for Hospice) and check on her. The problems we are encountering right now are 1) lifting her is a big problem, she can't walk at all by herself or stand or even pull herself to a sitting position on the side of the bed - we have to move her and lift her to the wheelchair to get her out of the living room - i can't lift her to the wheelchair by myself - it takes both of us to get her into the chair and on the bedside comode, but if she lies in bed all day, then she doesn't sleep at night and wants us to come downstairs every 2 hours for her to use the bedpan, sometimes she doesn't even go, i think she is just bored and wants company - it's killing us to not get any sleep at night and we can't keep her awake enough so that she is sleeping at night - has anyone had this problem?? The other problem is that she is losing control of her bowels, she doesn't know that she needs to have a BM until we have her standing (both of us lifting her) and then she immediatly realizes that she needs to go and if we don't have the bedside comode right there or can't make it in time, she ends up going on the floor, the carpet, where ever we are - it happens about every 3 days and we hate to put her in diapers, but we also hate cleaning up you know what - how have others handled the subject of Depends/diapers with a loved one? It's so horrible, and we know she doesn't mean to do it, but we also don't know how to broach the subject with her. Any suggestions are welcome - please reply if you have had any similiar experiences. We are looking for any suggestions, Hospice nurse says to give her sleeping pills and put her in a diaper, but that just sounds so mean and my husband can't bring himself to discuss it with her and i don't feel like it's my place to make her do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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