Tim'sKathy Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 I am having a hard time writing this ....we got to go to the beach on Saturday, but Tuesday morning Tim had weakness on his right side and was confused. He was taken by ambulance to a local hospital up there and then transferred later that day to UMass Memorial back here in Worcester. They found that the cancer in his brain has grown and now tell us that any more chemo or radiation would be of no benefit. I have been staying at the hospital with him all week and we just got home today. He is on anti-seizure meds (Dilatntin) and Decadron (here we go again- the drug from Hell) so he will not have any more symptoms...and they told us to go out to dinner, back to the beach for the weekend etc, and do as much as he possibly can do. He is still having trouble walking- they gave us a hospital bed so he will not have to climb all the stairs to the 2nd floor and a wheelchair in case he wants to go out, but is using a walker around the house. Physical Therapy will start next week to help him build himself up again. Dr. Edmiston (his Onc) was wonderful in the way she told us and we will never forget her. I had made her an afghan. (Tim's idea), and we gave it to her the night after she told us (with a card telling her how amazing she had been to us) and she said "Driving home last night I said to myself I cannot do this job any more...and then I find people like you and then I know why I do this" He was sent home with Hospice. We just have to enjoy what ever time we have left. And he did get to the beach like he wanted. He has been so brave through all of this, it is amazing, I only hope that I can be as strong....please include us in your prayers..... Love, Kathy Quote
Donna G Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 Sorry to hear that the brain mets have grown. Your Dr is right, "live' all the time you have, enjoy what you can, have no regrets, would have, should have etc. Please keep us posted on how the beach went and how you are doing. Donna G Quote
Guest Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 OH KATHY, I am praying for you. If you need to talk to someone, we're here. E-mail me or PM me or call me. (((HUGS))) Katieb Director of Forum Moderators / Legal Affairs In Memory of Jessee Dewey September 6, 2003 Quote
Remembering Dave Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 Many prayers coming your way from the Chapman house. David C Quote
Don Wood Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 Kathy, I am do saddened by the news. My prayers are with you both. God's grace. Don Quote
MO_Sugar Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 Prayers and Best wishes coming your way. God Bless you all. Quote
Cindy RN Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 I don't know what to say, I am sad at this moment. Prayers are being said for the both of you. Live life to the fullest now, enjoy each other. Cindy Quote
kimblanchard Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 Kathy I am deeply saddened to hear about Tim. May God give you the strength to be strong for him. I will be praying for both of you Bess B Quote
BarbaraL Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 Kathy, I join everyone here in sending my prayers your way. Enjoy each other as best you can! Barbara Quote
kimblanchard Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 Kathy, My prayers are with you both. Peg Quote
bobmc Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 Dear Kathy; So very sorry you and Tim are going through this; ; You both are in my thoughts and prayers' God bless and hang in there Bobmc- NSCLC- stageIIB- left pneumonectomy- 5-2-01 " absolutely insist on enjoying life today!" Quote
norme Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 Kathy, I am lost for words. I will pray so hard for both you and Tim for this is very hard times... What can one say right now except to say, take each day to the fullest with love for one another. I am tearing as I am writing this for I have been there before and God knows it is horrible, so why????? I to am with you and you can pm me or phone me any hour day or night. I feel like I have known everyone on this board who posts as a dear friend and it really hurts me to know what is happening to both of you..I pray that God helps you both through this in a gentle, caring and loving way.... Quote
shelliemacs Posted September 20, 2003 Posted September 20, 2003 kathy I am also sending prayers up to my mom so that she can hand deliver them to God for you. She is real pushy and she'll get them to him even without an appointment. stay positive if you can.... Quote
LindaMRG Posted September 21, 2003 Posted September 21, 2003 Praying right now, Kathy. (((((((((((((BIG HUG)))))))))))))))))) Quote
Tiny Posted September 21, 2003 Posted September 21, 2003 Dear Kathy This is a terrible time for all of you. Of course Tim and you are in my prayers. It's a small blessing that you got to the beach; I hope some of those memories help sustain you. Quote
Donna D Posted September 22, 2003 Posted September 22, 2003 Kathy, My thoughts and prayers are here for you and Tim. I am saddened by your news. May God give you both strenght and peace in your hearts. Dona Quote
ginnyd Posted September 22, 2003 Posted September 22, 2003 Dear Kathy, So often on this board I wish I had a magic 'cure' wand. This is one rotten disease. I am so sad about Tim's condition. Take each day as a miracle. Hold each other, talk about the wonderful times, love each other. One of the biggest surprises I had as an adult was that life wasn't fair. I expected hard, but I also expected fair. Anybody reading the posts here would know that life is far from fair. You and Tim will be continued in my prayers, especially you Kathy, this must be extremely hard. Quote
marta Posted September 22, 2003 Posted September 22, 2003 Kathy, I just wanted to let you know that I am praying for you....try to cherish your time at the beach together and think of the good times. Thinking of you Laura Quote
Debaroo Posted September 23, 2003 Posted September 23, 2003 Kathy, I just wanted to let you know that you and Tim are included in my prayers. I hope that you both create some more beautiful memories together. I am so sorry that the disease has progressed. Your doctor sounds so nice, it is great that you have such a wonderful rapport with her. Please keep us posted and let us know if you need ANYTHING. Take care, deb Quote
karen335 Posted September 24, 2003 Posted September 24, 2003 Kathy, Prayers for you and Tim. Keep the faith....... God Bless Karen Quote
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