I need tough advice

[TamHol]

I think the true information is more important to you and the kids right now. You have more reality to deal with and need to prepare yourselves for what may come. I would test the waters with some small pieces of information with your husband, he sounds like he'll let you know if he wants you to keep it to yourself or not.

He may need that desperate hope to get him threw as many days as he can ......... so slow but steady would be my course of action with him. Although it is his right to know what is going on ... he may already know in his heart and head .... but hearing it is a very different story. You may be on a tedder-tawter with this subject and engulfing him in this information may cause things to get worse with his demeanor and anger.

Good luck to you and the best Christmas possible to your family.

Tammy

[sharyn]

Dear Friend,

I am going to give you my off the cuff opinion without "overthinking" it, becaue I find those are the true answers to questions... gut reaction, ya know? Anyway, I think you need to tell your husband exactly what is going on. Actually, I think his doctor needs to tell him as I think it would be most difficult for you to do.

I think your husband deserves the right to decide how much he wants to put his body and mind through, knowing what the final outcome "might" be. I really can tell this is a powerful decision for you, but, I think in your heart, you know the right answer. Let him make the decisions on how to live the rest of his life, wouldn't you want the same? I will pray for you - Love, Sharon

[wyogirl]

My view is this: It's his life, so it has to be his choice whether to continue treatment or not. And obviously he can only do that if he has all the information there is for him to have. What a tough decision for you to have to make. So sorry for everything you both are going thru. Best wishes and Merry Christmas! May you find some peace.

Laura

[applewe]

You have had several replies, but here goes with one more.

1. Your husband should klow the extent of his disease. My husband and I talked about all of the odds (not in his favor).

2. never give up hope. there are miracles. Even when its tough, keep the faith.

3. Live each day to its fullest and be thankful for every one that you have.

4. Be honest with each other and always say I love you" and "I'm sorry"

There is no more difficult time of life for the patient than surviving cancer. Be there for each other. Hold each other up moment by moment.