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shan

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I visited this site before my mother passed away last April and I've been keeping up with everybody and reading the posts. Everyone here helped me so much when I was dealing with Mom getting sicker each day and as I sit here by myself...I'm finding myself drowning in grief as it gets closer to the one year anniversary. I don't know how to deal with this. I miss her every minute of every day. I have a brother who tells me it is time to be "over" the death of our mom. How can I ever "get over" the loss of my best friend and mom? I feel so alone and I can't talk to my Dad about this because I know he feels the loss even more than I do. I hate this. Why isn't she here? I feel like my family is falling apart little by little. We were such a close family and it seems like we can't be in the same room anymore without fighting about something. She was such a strong woman...she shouldn't be gone amd my fmaily shouldn't be like this...

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All I can say is I know...and I'm sorry.

You can't control how someone else deals with their grief, and I've learned (the hard way) that we can't control or sometimes even rationalize how some people act after a death.

Just keep doing what you are doing. There will come a time when you are comforted by memories of her and life will get a bit easier. We never stop missing them and we don't "get over it", but we learn to accept it and go thru it because we have no other choice.

Surround yourself by those who love and support you. You are your mother's daughter and you are stronger than you might think. She would want you to be happy again.

Sending lots of hugs as the anniversay day approaches. I know how hard it will be. We are here for you.

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The first hurts a lot, THe second I think Hurts, but not as much. It Still hurts. Everyone is different in their grief. On e of the Grief Sites I visit sometimes is Beyond indigo.com. Here si a link if you are interested;

http://beyondindigo.com/

This may help some. I do not know. I understand the fear and the not knowing how to cope. There is a difference in Losing ones Spouse and Ones Parent. But either way there is a loss of a person whom was very dearly loved by many.

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Is amazing how one person can be the "glue" that holds the family together isnt' it?

Daddy always say Mom was our "glue"... but, now that he is gone, I can say things are not quite what they were. Not that things are bad... but, he would have put a stop to some of the events that have occured since his passing, if ya know what i mean?? He was a strong man who spoke his mind, and I think sometimes, a family needs someone like that to keep everyone "in check".

And.... you grieve at your own pace... never worry about what someone else expects from you... Love, Sharon

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