tjrasMOM Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 Hi, I'm new here. I'm 37 & Mom is 59. My parents are divorced. I'm an only child of my mom's. I'm married & have 2 daughters (4 & 7) who adore their "Nona". My husband and my Mom are very close. Mom has a wonderful family...94-yr-old dad, sisters, nieces and nephews who are all being very supportive right now. She's staying with my grandpa now, feeling the comfort of being with family. We all live within 10 miles of each other - but Grandpa's house is 5 blocks from mine so it's nice having her within walking distance. Amazing that my 94-yr-old grandpa caring for his 59 yr-old daughter. The family is still grieving the loss of Grandma who left us in 09/05. Just trying to find a way to deal with everything we've been through lately. My mom was treated for pneumonia back in late March. She couldn't breathe & was treated for pneumonia and bronchitis. When she was gasping for air, she went in & demanded a chest xray. Her dr. didn't even do this when she heard how bad she was breathing!! But the radiologist was freaked out when he saw her entire left lung filled. He said she was drowning! She had 20% breathing capacity in her left. It seems since the xray, early May, everything has gone quickly...with many ups and downs. Pleural effusion, thorencentesis with blood found in fluid. Cytology showed no cancer cells, but also no infection. Pulmonary specialist wanted to do a bronchoscopy & take biopsies. When he went in he came out after the procedure and told me "it did NOT look like cancer!...but that we still needed biopsy results to be sure." This past Wednesday she drove herself to the dr. for the results. She didn't want me to miss more work. But when she came in, the first thing he said was that he wished she'd brought family. He found cancer cells in the tissue. Thursday we met with her oncologist who explained it in more detail. Because there is so much inflammation, it was hard to get good tissue for the biopsy, but when they did a brush biopsy, they found "suspicious cells" that lead them to believe it's NSCLC. She is scheduled for a PET scan Tuesday. So, we don't even know if it's originating in the lung, if it's spread...or what stage it's in. All we know is that they found cancer cells. We were really starting to believe that it was some horrible reaction to pneumonia. She has a chronic cough and has been vomiting for almost 2 months. She's lost 25 lbs because she can't keep her meals down. Her spirits are up but she's scared. I feel very optimistic one day and hate the world the next. She was a smoker for 30 years. A very light smoker, but still a smoker. She's also an artist. She feels that she was exposed to many harsh chemicals throughout her life. She keeps explaining herself to her doctors. I've never seen her so humble and vulnerable. She's always been a fighter with an attitude. The hardest part is seeing her fear. I want her to FIGHT & not feel that she's lost already. So many emotions go through me on a daily basis. I just feel blessed to have our family by our side. Wednesday she had NO ONE with her when she got the news that it was in fact cancer. And then Thursday 4 of us went with her to her oncologist appointment & we could barely fit in the room. We become glued to each other when we've gone through this kind of trajedy in our family. My cousins are like brothers and sisters. My 2 aunts are like 2 more moms. We've all been through 3 very difficult losses in this family. There were 5 siblings. Mom's sister & BEST friend lost her battle with breast cancer in 87 (she was 41). Her baby brother died from AIDS in 93'. He was 42. Another sister had breast cancer in 96 but caught it early & is by her side today. =) And then their Mom, my grandma - who was the queen of our village, lost her battle with congestive heart failure in 2005. She was 88 yrs young. Losing Grandma was the hardest on my mom. Mom spent so much time with Grandma. They were both artists. She has even mentioned that the stress of losing her mom could have played a part in developing cancer. I know we shouldn't try to figure out why we get diseases, but I also know this is normal. I'm sorry for rambling here. Just wanted to share with others who can relate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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