spicysashimi Posted June 12, 2007 Share Posted June 12, 2007 Hi Guys, Its been a while since my last post and I apologize. We've had a lot to do, engagement party (a real hit), everyone loves our apartment, which in new york city is a compliment next best to "you look like and underwear model." Then we had my sister's wedding which was great but not was I expecting. I was a week out of chemotherapy and I thought I would just have to show up, play the ipod (my duty) and give a toast. I had doubts I would feel well enough to take that 2.5 hour car drive. Anyway, I felt ok, so we did it, but Julia and I turned into virtual maids of honor and best man because sis and husband had none. Lots of labor. and I couldn't help but look around at the 50 / 60 young guys sipping martinis not lifting a finger. They didn't have chemotherapy 5 days ago. They don't have painful bone metastases. I didn't say anything, just grumbled and did my job like the loyal brother I am. The wedding was also weird because there were bunches of family, almost of all them on my mother's side who had not seen me post-diagnosis. I was expecting some awkward/annoying comments and questions but was pleasantly surprised to see myself only having to politely walk away from one person. Then my dad came into town and I was sick. We did some tourist stuff which was kind of awesome (Top of the Rock and the Tram ride) and we ate at some of our favorite restaurants including Eleven Madison Park, where jules and I got engaged. Our wedding date is on Yom Kippur, probably the holiest day in the faith. This has caused some consternation, but we're plowing ahead. My dad gave me some serious flack for this, even guilt tripping me about my now deceased grandma and how disappointed she would be that we were'nt taking Yom Kippur seriously enough- and this is coming from a sixty year old jewish man who hasn't been to Temple since his dad took him as a teenager. So I said, look, I know it hurts, but I have deep respect for our tradition and where we come from. I think all of us who were skeptical should attend the wedding and then attend Yom Kippur services the next day (the day that matters) for several hours. *That* would make the weekend probably the most observant Yom Kippur I know my dad or I have ever had. And *that* is what would please my grandmother most, may she rest in peace. So, we're slowly getting back into our groove. Briefly thinking about moving out the burbs, then coming right back to our love of the city. Its too good! If you're in town, PM me and let's meet up for coffee or tea. Beer doesn't mix well with chemotherapy which I am stubbornly and slowly learning. I feel great - almost normal except for this pain episode I just endured. I am living like a normal person. One more thing. Later today, 6/12, I have to go to hearing before the character and fitness committee where yours truly is the guest of honor. I have a felony conviction for some stupid stuff that happened when I was still in high school. Its been trailing me since then - people telling me I would never become a lawyer because I can never pass the committee hearing since its a felony, etc. even though that felony experience is the reason why I became a lawyer. Anyway, they know I am sick and they know I am continuing to work. The senior lawyer for my office and a judge whom I have been practicing in front of for the past year and a half will be there. I am teeny bit nervous but the oxycodone i was forced to take has given me some intense calmness. So, please think of me at 2 pm today. I am getting grilled about one of the defining moments in my life (next to cancer, obviously) for hours. Wrong answers = no admission to bar. Right answers = I actually become a lawyer. Hoping to post more often. Keep living. Eat sundaes. Listen to music loud. aaron Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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