Misinformation from Hospice

[dads girl]

Has anyone had hospice give them really wrong info? I know it is hard to predict exactly when someone is going to die, but yesterday afternoon we all got called that my dad had only a few hours left. When my aunts got to the house the nurse told them he was gone already. My aunt went in and touched his hand and then he opened his eyes. How can you say someone is dead when they aren't. He was then pretty responsive all night. It is now 24 hours later and he is awake and ate and drank something. It is hard to know what to think now.

My husband is mad because he doesn't know how you get people worked up over only having hours and it has been a day so far.

[dads girl]

Thanks for the reply. People are wondering why I am at work but this might go on for days. I guess we will just have to wait and see.

[ztweb]

Wow. I cannot believe this. I suppose it is most true that noone can predict when someone is going to die...however, they needed to have more empathy at that point.

Please know my prayers are with you...this is such a horrible time.

Jen

[Welthy]

I'm so very sorry you have to be surrounded by morons at a time like this. This was inexcusable. Many hugs and thoughts going your way for peace. I hope things are well as it has been almost a week since your post.

Welthy

[DanaBrooke]

they told me two weeks the most! My mom lived for 4 1/2 weeks after that! so you never know! Try to hold on and relax as much as you can! my mom's temperature was 101 for three days and at the end reached over 106- her feet and hands were ice cold- thats when she only had a few hours left! Sorry you have to deal with this! BEst of luck during this horrible time!

[dads girl]

Thanks for the replies. My dad passed away on 6/21. It hasn't been as difficult as I thought it would be. Now we just laugh because only he would have a dress rehearsal death.

[mhutch1366]

...And mine.

I am so very sorry you were treated so badly by the aides.

MaryAnn

[Welthy]

Dad's girl,

I'm very sorry to hear of your Dad's passing. Stay well and God bless.

Welthy

[Kaffie]

I talked to a hospice nurse about this very thing when my Mother in law passed away from cancer.

She told me that it is not all that uncommon for a person to stop breathing for a bit and appear to be gone but then take a breath and sort of come back.

Weird