MomsGirl Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 I had an experience yesterday I felt like sharing... My husband Mark went into the hospital for surgery on his deviated septum and to get his tonsils out. He did very well, but the doctor sent to him to the ICU for one night just for observation b/c of the risk of bleeding. It was not the same hospital my mom was in, but walking into that ICU made my blood run cold. Room after room of very sick people on vents, etc. But I was okay, or so I thought. I went into the waiting room to make a call, and it was filled with people. At least 20 of them. Older, middle-aged, teenaged and a baby here and there. A family, I assumed. And I noticed there were several young twenty-somethings wandering in and out of the waiting room. I came back from making a call and the crowd had dramatically increased, with young guys and girls. Many of them were crying and hugging, and they all took turns filing in and out of the room next to ours, the girls each carrying a red rose. I thought uh-oh, something really bad is going on and I just felt ill. I quietly asked our nurse if it was a kid, and she said it was a 24-year-old guy. (I had noticed him briefly when I walked by, unconscious and on a respirator). I thought, oh gosh, cancer, or car accident. I was tearful the whole way home, it was a very difficult scene to witness. He must have passed away right after I went home for the night, b/c Mark said he heard sudden wailing from next door. This morning I noticed a new person in the guy’s bed and I quietly asked the desk person if he had passed away and she said yes, then I (probably inappropriately) asked what happened. She said “bee sting”. The doctor standing there said yes, severe allergic reaction. I just stood there in shock with tears in my eyes. It did not make sense to me. What about his parents, who cared for him and protected him (possibly from a known allergy) for so long, and then poof, he's gone from a bee sting? Not that a car accident or disease would have been less tragic, but I just found this so...I don't know. He was so, SO young and so much to look forward to in his life, and such a routine thing to most people just took it all away from him. I don't know, it kind of put things in perspective for me a little bit? Maybe just for today, though, who knows. I did also think that my mom was probably standing at the door of Heaven with a smile and a big plate of her famous M&M cookies for him, saying "Come on in, sweetie..." She loved her sons and grandsons so tenderly, even when they became strapping young men like this guy was. I came home and hugged my kids today, that's for sure. I didn't even tell my sister, who has three boys ranging from 18-23. That's all I could think about... Thanks for listening.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrea Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 Wow, I have the chills. Thank you for sharing that. It does put things into perspective. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calintay Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 How sad. Thats about all I can say, I am kind of speechless Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connie B Posted August 2, 2007 Share Posted August 2, 2007 We just never know. Life really is so very precious. My heart aches for that young man's parents, family and friends. So young! It's not fair, but then so much in life isn't always fair. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted August 3, 2007 Share Posted August 3, 2007 Wow. Bee stings, bridges falling down, lung cancer (cancer of any kind, really). . . none of it makes any sense. Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laban Posted August 3, 2007 Share Posted August 3, 2007 We just don't know when it will be our time. We have to love and laugh every day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mskim Posted August 4, 2007 Share Posted August 4, 2007 I've been trying not to cry through the posts today but thi sone poushed me over for some reason... maybe it is my 3 precious babes that I knwo can be taken from me anytime, by something as little as a bee sting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomsGirl Posted August 6, 2007 Author Share Posted August 6, 2007 I'm sorry everyone, I know this post was a downer and maybe I was kind of selfish in posting it. I guess I just felt for the parents and what they are going through, the grief, and knew you guys would understand how I felt watching all of that unfold. I think I was also very emotional sitting in the ICU holding my helpless husband's hand, wondering if someday I would be doing this for him when he was faced with a life threatening illness. It brought my mom's ordeal back with a vengeance. I guess the drama unfolding that night was just the icing on the cake of a long day... Sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted August 6, 2007 Share Posted August 6, 2007 Michele, Don't apologize at all for your posting. I, for one, found it to be enlightening. Somewhere, someone, always has it tougher than you think you do. Makes you sit back and reflect a bit and offer a prayer OR TWO of thanks. Love, Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted August 6, 2007 Share Posted August 6, 2007 Hi Michele, You have nothing to appologize about. We are not just about LC but anything anybody wants to talk about. But how so very very tragic. Again its one of those times where you realize how precious life is and we take so much of it for granted. It's always some tragedy that hits you right in heart... How lucky we are to wake up and see the sunshine and smell the flowers. How sad for this young mans family and friends. Sometimes life just is not fair! Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teriw Posted August 7, 2007 Share Posted August 7, 2007 I thought the subject was very sad, but real. I didn't find it depressing. It would be depressing if it had no effect on you. Thanks for sharing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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