janehill Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 Today, on what would have been my mother's 73rd birthday, I buried her ashes in an urn under the most beautiful sky and most perfect autumn day in New Jersey. I wrote her a letter and tucked it into a stainless steel cylinder with a picture of my mom - and I buried it in the urn with her ashes. It was far more difficult than I'd expected but the day was so perfect that I just had to believe she had some hand in that. I told her how much I loved her and I apologized for being so short tempered so many times and that I, too, forgave her for her shortcomings. But that I miss her even more than I'd imagined I could and that I expect that to last until I draw my last breath. Then I motioned over for the cemetery caretaker to come over and he uncovered the grave. I placed my mom's urn on the bottom and he asked if I wanted him to cover it then, which I did. So he shoveled in the dirt and I watched until it was level with the earth and I left feeling good about that. I needed to know she was safe and that I'd carried out her wishes to the letter. I then went to lunch with a girlfriend of mine and we toasted a glass of chardonnay to mom in celebration of her birthday. God I love that lady who drove me insane. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Betts Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 What a poignant description of your day - your mom's birthday. I can only imagine how much you miss her. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 You honored her most wonderfully. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 Jane, You did what she wanted. Thinking of a letter was very good. Hugs Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 It was beautiful here too, Jane. I'm sure your mom heard you and is at peace. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted September 13, 2007 Share Posted September 13, 2007 Jany, what a great tribute to your mom. You don't have anything to apologize for. You were there for her in every way possible and I know she was and is deeply grateful. ((((HUGS)))) Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 (((Jane))), How absolutely beautiful. Thank you for sharing with us. God Bless. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 Very cool. Your description was so well-written, I felt like I had walked through the day with you. Your strength amazes me. I LOVE your last line. I, too, loved a mom who drove me insane. What a gift they were in our lives. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tiredmom959 Posted September 14, 2007 Share Posted September 14, 2007 Sounds like you honored her in death as you did in life and that you continue to be a wonderful daughter to her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted September 15, 2007 Share Posted September 15, 2007 Jane- What a wonderful tribute to your mom. Rochelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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