What should we do?

[wondermom]

Mom mom and dad's 31rst wedding anniversary is quickly approaching. Dad has brought it up a couple times so I know it is on his mind. I am wondering if my brother, sister, and I should ask him to go out to eat or something to celebrate that day. Or do you think he would rather be alone. I just have this horrible vision of him sitting home alone feeling sad about Mom not being there. It just breaks my heart. I will probably just ask him what he would like to do. What would you do? Or if you have lost a spouse, how do you handle these days that were special for the two of you? I just want to know how to help my dad. I realize everyone handles these situations differently but I am just looking for some ideas, I guess.

Thanks,

Jill

[ginnyde]

Jill,

I am always thankful when family/friends remember a day that was important to me and Earl.

I would call your Dad and invite him to your house or to a restaurant for dinner. Ask gently. Tell him why you are asking. Let him then make the choice.

[Nick C]

I'd ask...being alone is tough on those days. If he really wants to be alone he'll tell ya, but I wouldn't think he would.

[Welthy]

Jill,

Can't offer anything more than has been said. I just wanted to say you are a darling to be thinking about your Dad's feelings. What a special daughter! Hugs and kudos to you.

Welthy

(Every time I look at the photo of your vibrant Mom, I want to cry. Damn cancer. She was beautiful Jill.)

[J.C.]

Jill,

Just ask him,

I know I would be glad

if somebody would do it

for me.

In one Gratitude I posted

that this year I will have

Kathia with me for the day.

Hugs

Jackie

[Ry]

I'm with Ginny-- ask gently, it will mean a lot to him.