wondermom Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Mom mom and dad's 31rst wedding anniversary is quickly approaching. Dad has brought it up a couple times so I know it is on his mind. I am wondering if my brother, sister, and I should ask him to go out to eat or something to celebrate that day. Or do you think he would rather be alone. I just have this horrible vision of him sitting home alone feeling sad about Mom not being there. It just breaks my heart. I will probably just ask him what he would like to do. What would you do? Or if you have lost a spouse, how do you handle these days that were special for the two of you? I just want to know how to help my dad. I realize everyone handles these situations differently but I am just looking for some ideas, I guess. Thanks, Jill Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Jill, I am always thankful when family/friends remember a day that was important to me and Earl. I would call your Dad and invite him to your house or to a restaurant for dinner. Ask gently. Tell him why you are asking. Let him then make the choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 I'd ask...being alone is tough on those days. If he really wants to be alone he'll tell ya, but I wouldn't think he would. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Jill, Can't offer anything more than has been said. I just wanted to say you are a darling to be thinking about your Dad's feelings. What a special daughter! Hugs and kudos to you. Welthy (Every time I look at the photo of your vibrant Mom, I want to cry. Damn cancer. She was beautiful Jill.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 Jill, Just ask him, I know I would be glad if somebody would do it for me. In one Gratitude I posted that this year I will have Kathia with me for the day. Hugs Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted September 24, 2007 Share Posted September 24, 2007 I'm with Ginny-- ask gently, it will mean a lot to him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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