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ChristineT

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My dad passed away on Tuesday. It wasn't even 2 months after his diagnosis. You can read the story in my other posts. Basically, the pnuemonia turned into sepsis and he went into septic shock. His kidneys failed and his heart gave out.

This is so hard. He never even had the chance to fight. He had such a good attitude. I just feel so defeated. Not to mention sad, mad, etc. This just really stinks.

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Thank you ALL for your thoughts and prayers. They mean SO much to me and my family.

We are coping, I guess it's never easy. I just can't help but feel like I let dad down. I found his drs, went to his appts, helped guied his treatment and it didn't even matter. I know, I don't want to hear 'you did what you thought was best' and I am not looking for people to feel sorry for me. I just wanted him to have a chance to fight this.

God bless all of you living with this horrible disease. I pray you all conquer it.

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Christine, You DID give him the best chance to fight this, and he gave it everything he had. But it was not in your control, or your dad's control. So hard to accept this, as we all would like to believe that we can actually save someone...it just doesn't always work that way.

Please accept my deepest sympathies.

hugs,

Karen

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Sorry that your dad didn't have a chance to give it a real fight. I know how shocked you must be. As for the anger and the feelings of failure, those are part of the grieving process. You didn't let your dad down. It was just his time and as bad as it seems now maybe he was spared a lot more suffering.

My heart and prayers go out to you and your family.

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I just can't help but feel like I let dad down. I found his drs, went to his appts, helped guied his treatment and it didn't even matter. I know, I don't want to hear 'you did what you thought was best' and I am not looking for people to feel sorry for me. I just wanted him to have a chance to fight this.

you did everything you could, and if you could have moved a mountain to cure his cancer, there is no doubt you would have done that too. I'm sure he knew what a wonderful daughter and advocate you were to him. It was too short. He should have had a chance to fight...you are right. I hope you can be comforted by the love you both shared. I know it is so hard.

We continue to be here for you.

I'm so sorry for your great loss.

((hug))

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