Adrian Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 Friends-- I wanted to let you know where we are in our journey at the moment. On Monday, our oncologist stopped by our house (what an amazing guy!) because my dad was simply to weak to go to his appt. He said that my dad was significantly dehydrated and needed to be admitted to the hospital. After arranging for a private room for my dad and ambulance transport, we headed over. Yesterday, after running tests, our doctor said that he believes that the Tarceva is not working. Since October 4th, my dad's CEA levels have gone from 400 to 800. While we know that CEA measures are pretty crude--that combined with all of his symptoms leads him to think that it is probably time to stop treatment. My dad has said several times over the past few days that he feels so weak and doesn't think he can continue like this. The IV hydration isn't helping much. We are fortunate in that he is not in significant pain (although he says he feels an ache in his chest). Our oncologist feels that my dad's cancer is incredibly aggressive. Given his amazing health prior to this illness, it is hard to believe that we could be going down this path after only six months. But my dad has fought hard--and I know that he loves us so much, that if it were at all possible to stay here, he would. Yesterday, we sat together for five hours just holding hands. It is hard for him to talk. And while I am just so incredibly sad, it gave me tremendous peace just to be with him. I am so sad, so terribly sad, and so shocked that we may lose him so quickly. My dad is one of the gentlest, kindest, and funniest souls to walk the earth. As everyone who meets him says, he is truly one of the most special humans you will ever encounter. While I feel that life is so unfair at the moment, I am reminded of how lucky I am to have my dad as my dad. This community's strength and kindness has really been one of the few lifesavers we've had through this journey. Many thanks, Leslie (posting as Adrian because of a computer glitch) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nyka69 Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 I am so sorry to hear this. Sending wishes for peace for all of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bev'sSister Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 I'm sorry, Leslie. My sister went through a similar situation, and it is hard to see them suffer. She was a fighter also, and didn't give up til the very end. We had some really great talks over those last few days. I hope your Dad gets to feeling better and y'all can talk. The fluids finally did kick in for Beverly, and she did feel a little better, but it seemed to take a couple of days. Take care of yourself and keep in touch. Love, Bobby Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leela Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 I'm so sorry. Praying for your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trish2418 Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 I'm so sorry. I'm sending prayers for peace and strength for all of you. Trish Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 Leslie and Adrian, I'm so sorry to read this news. I will continue to hold your dad and your family in my thoughts and prayers so that the time you have left is loving, peaceful and pain-free. We'll be here for you. Susan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley (MLC) Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 Leslie and Adrian, I am so very sorry to hear this news. I hope they can come up with a plan to turn things around. In the meantime, I know your family is truly blessed to have each other. I can feel the love you have for each other in every post you share. Shelley Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
recce101 Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 Leslie, I sent you a PM. It's addressed to Adrian, but it's for you too. My love and Aloha, Ned Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MsC1210 Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 I am so sorry to read this update. Sending many prayers for your Dad and your Family and you. Christine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christine Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 I am so sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 Leslie and Adrian, I am just so sorry to read this. I can tell that your Dad is an incredible man and that he raised two incredible people. I wish you all as much peace as possible right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barbb Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 I am so so sorry for you and your family. I pray peace for you. Barb Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karenlaureti Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 I am so sorry you are going through this. I so know how you feel. Stay with your Dad, tell him how much you love him and don't leave anything out. You will be happy in the end that you did thi. It is so very hard and I will pray that god gives you and your family strength. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted October 31, 2007 Share Posted October 31, 2007 Leslie and Adrian, It just breaks my heart to read this news. I've been in la-la land and hadn't realized things were moving in this direction for your dear Father. I'm so sorry and wish there was some way to make this time less hurtful for the two of you. I will pray for more time and other options, but if God has other plans, please know how very strong the two of you have been for your Father. Your love and care for your Dad is so very apparent. For as many accolades as you heap on him for who he is (and quite a guy!), the apples didn't fall far from the tree. Stay strong my young friends and may God be with all of you during this difficult time. Feel free to contact me at anytime. Much love and hugs, Debi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendy Posted November 1, 2007 Share Posted November 1, 2007 My prayers are with you and your family tonight. Wendy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pipfitz Posted November 1, 2007 Share Posted November 1, 2007 Lesley and Adrian, sending you all best wishes for peace and strength from across the Atlantic. I've been following your wonderful posts about your dad both here and on onctalk. You've been an inspiration for me in my journey with DH. Pippa Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted November 1, 2007 Share Posted November 1, 2007 Sending prayers for strength and a reserve of good days. Jackie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Still in my thoughts... Welthy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alexan Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Prayers for you and your family. And a lot of strnght and peace. hugs bucky Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrian Posted November 2, 2007 Author Share Posted November 2, 2007 Hello everyone, dad is still with us, but we've been told, and it is apparent, that we are in a "days" time frame. His breathing is declining by the day. He is slightly agitated, but not in considerable pain. We only hope that this happens as peacefully as possible. Thank you all for your continued support. Didn't think we'd be here so soon, but here we are. Adrian Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karenlaureti Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 I am so, so sorry, I just went through this on October 6th. It is just so incredibly hard. I never went through anything so hard. Tell him how much you love him a lot and give him a lot of kisses! With my Dad, an evident sign was his hands became incredibly cold and his breathing was very shallow. I am sure they will make sure he is not in pain. May god give you continued strength! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don M Posted November 2, 2007 Share Posted November 2, 2007 Leslie and Adrian, I am very sorry that your dad has declined. you all have my prayers. don M Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teriw Posted November 3, 2007 Share Posted November 3, 2007 Leslie and Adrian, I'm so sorry and I'm thinking of you. Lean on each other. Your dad must be so proud of you both. Hugs, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted November 3, 2007 Share Posted November 3, 2007 Leslie and Adrian, My prayers are with you. You've both fought so hard to help your dad. Please know that we will be here to help you. Susan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connie B Posted November 3, 2007 Share Posted November 3, 2007 SEE GRIEF FORUM Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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