Ghita419 Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Gene passed away yesterday at about 3pm. We're still not sure why it happened because his scans were scheduled for today. It turns out, it was his blood gasses. Every time we went to the doc, and had just been to the doc the day before, I kept insisting that I thought he was hypoxic. But they'd do a sat and he would sat 93-95%. Yesterday, I woke up and found him unresponsive and Cheyne Stoking. I sat him up, made him breathe, he came around but was confused. He walked to the bathroom, sat down in the chair, gave me an "I love you smile" and hugged me. My son and a friend of his helped me get him to the car and took him to the ER. The minute he laid down on the gurney, he again started swirling the drain. He began Cheyne Stoking again. His sat on the pulse ox was 94% at the same time they were drawing ABG's. The gasses came back with a Po2 of 44 PCO2 of 68. The doc put him on 2L O's nc repeated gasses in 20" s and they came back with a PCO2 of 89. He turned the O's down to 1/2 L. Gene had a living will and did not want a ventilator, if they could have assured me he would come off the vent, I would have done it. It was so hard to make that decision, not knowing why this had happened. He stayed in the ER from 9am to 3pm, breathing one or two breathes a minute the whole time. He had no pain and finally slept away. I will never have his arms around me again. He was my everything, and he was since the day we started seeing each other. My heart, my soul, my friend, my husband. Ghita Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laban Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Ghita, I'm so sorry you have lost your beloved Gene. Hang on to those wonderful memories of your lives together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fillise Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Ghita, I'm so very sorry. Please accept my deepest condolences. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Susan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Ghita- Oh I am so sorry. My sympathy to you. You will be in my thoughts as you make your way through the days ahead. Rochelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leela Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 I'm so sorry for your loss Ghita. Wishing you strength and peace in the days ahead. Hugs, Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 I am so very sorry for your grief. You were brave, and honored his requests at the end. What a difficult gift. We are here for you, whatever you need. I'm praying for you and your family. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JB Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Very sorry to read this...Our deepest sympathy to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teriw Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Ghita, I am so shocked to read this and so, so sorry. Sometimes there are just no adequate explanations. The first days are a whirlwind. You might feel a large surge of energy with things to do. Don't expect anything specific from yourself. Just let things happen emotionally as they will. It can be a roller coaster, particularly in the first weeks. It's so unreal. Allow people to help you. If friends ask if they can help, say yes. Do anything that you think might bring you a moment of joy, especially spending time with loved ones. And come here -- we understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beatlemike Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 So sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladybug Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 I am so very sorry. Michele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carolhg Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 I am so very sorry for your loss. Pleasse accept my sincere concolences to you and your family. Carol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MsC1210 Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Ghita I am so very sorry. Please accept my sincere sympathies and condolences. Christine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 I'm shocked and saddened, Ghita. Please know that you and your family will be prayed for during this difficult time. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Ghita, My deepest sympathy for your loss, prayers for strength and peace. Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
P.S. I Love You Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 I am very sorry for your loss, Ghita. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barbb Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Ghita, I am so sorry to read this. Everything Teri said is exactly right. In the beginning people will want to help, I had no idea what to have them do. So later, call those people if something comes up and they will surely be very willing to help you. Be sure to come back here and if you need to vent, do it. We all do and we will all be here for you. Barb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shineladysue Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Ghita, I am so very sorry for your loss of your beloved husband, Gene. My sympathies go out to you and your family. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 I am just so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RandyW Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 My thoughts condolences and prayers for you and the Family right now I know how hard this is to deal with. If we can be of any help drop us a note whenever you want. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 I am so so sorry the loss of your beloved husband. Please accept my deepest sympathies. That happened much too fast. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley (MLC) Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Ghita, I am so sorry to hear your very sad news. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Shelley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueeye Posted January 11, 2008 Share Posted January 11, 2008 Ghita, I am so sorry for your loss. Do come back here often, we understand like no one else. Leslie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 Ghita, I know I've already expressed my sympathy over at the Doc's place, but wanted to echo those above about sticking around for the support. There are many who know the sorrow in your heart now and we will be here to hold you up. May God hold you close in the upcoming days. Welthy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 I am so sorry. We'll be here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nomadawn Posted January 12, 2008 Share Posted January 12, 2008 Dear Ghita, I am so very sorry to read this. Please take care of yourself and remember you are not alone. We are here for you Wishing you strength & peace Debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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