Ann Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 If you found out that a really good friend made a negative comment about you to someone, would you ask your friend about the comment or just pretend you didn't know? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I would LIKE to say that I would say something. However, when this actually happened ~ I pretended I didn't know. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
recce101 Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Try this the next time you see said friend: "Somebody's been making some really stupid comments about [fill in the blank] and using your name! I just thought you ought to know." Aloha, Ned Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dchurchi Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 It would depend on the comment. If it was something that brought my integrity or values into question,I would absolutely confront this "friend". If it was a minor issue, probably just let is slide off my back. More important issues going on in my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LovesLife Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 This did happen to me about 7 years ago. I actually did ask my friend and she denied it - until I repeated the conversation I was told (another friend overheard her in the bank line up). She blushed and apologized profusely. The friendship was never quite the same after and has now become once a year Christmas cards. This was a friend who always spoke about other people and I had commented many times prior to this incident that I didn't wish to hear gossip about others. She told me after our fall out that I taught her a valuable lesson about speaking ill of others and that she simply did it because she was jealous and doesn't have a great deal of self esteem. Lessons learned for both of us. I now steer clear of those who speak behind others backs constantly - it just doesn't bode well for friendship. Sorry so long winded, but that was my story. Linda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I love Ned's answer. I would most likely let it go but the friendship wouldn't be the same. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I love Ned's answer too! And Ry, you are right. The friendship hasn't been the same. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patti B Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Prior to being diagnosed, I was always the kind that would definitely confront someone, and probably cause a scene. But now, there are much more important things to worry about. I would probably open my mouth, though, if someone said something negative about my son. Patti B. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sharyn Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I would probably think about it for a while... and then I would definetely say something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wendyr Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Well it happened to me and I stewed about for about a week then just had to confront the 'friend' She denied everything, but when I challenged her to go with me to meet with the person who relayed the incident to me, she knew further denying was impossible and it was the end of our friendship. This person had always shown a lot of jealousy towards me & I frankly was glad to be rid of her and her petty ways. wendyr Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geri Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 Don't know about the confrontation bit, but it would definitely change the tone of the friendship if not kill it all together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I would hunt 'em down and run over 'em with a beer truck... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muriel Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 I'm surprised that Snowflake wouldn't first send the person chickens and then stalk them with the beer truck. Muriel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 now now Snow At first I probably would not say anything, but I know it would eat me up inside. So I probably would ask after awhile. It would be better to ask right from the geckgo, but I keep things in until they blister... Don't know why... whatever. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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