kaneohegirl Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 pop is in a skilled nursing facility doing some rehab after being in the hospital for the crud/flu/whatever... I have been sick still am...all 3 of my kids were down with 104 temps... I am NOT a bad person for taking 1 day an lounging for me...RIGHT? I am usually at the facillity 1-3 times a day...taking a day that I dont feel like total crap an just taking the day to do whatever is fine ...its gotta be ..an yet I feel guilty... know what I did today? I took a LONG shower... played monopoly Jr with my youngest...made a sandwich for the 2 of us and took a NAP...thats it it was GREAT! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hawkeye Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 if you don't take care of you you can't take care of them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
recce101 Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 Good for you, Kg -- gotta recharge those batteries! Aloha, Ned Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 You can't run on empty, ya know. Take care and TIME for yourself. No guilt......self-preservation. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muriel Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 You really do need to take care of yourself - especially since you've got all those other people to take care of, too. I'm not really sure you should be going to the nursing facility when you've got the flu. Muriel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Welthy Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 You need to care of yourself and your kids right now. Your Dad is in good hands at a facility. I'm with Muriel, the less germs brought into the nursing home the better. Hope you all feel well very soon. Welthy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaminkw Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 Need more affirmation? My daughter, the nurse, who was always warning me about staying away from sources of infection apparently did't have the heart a couple of months ago to tell us not to stop and visit (I'm sure it was for my grandson) when she'd had a cold. I caught it and it complicated my recovery from that infusion pretty bad. Not only did you give yourself time to recharge your batteries, you protected your dad and others in the nursing home. And oh my, how happy your son must have been, sick or no, to get quality time with Mom! Sounds like a win win situation to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 This isn't a "cliche" you really can't take care of others without recharging and taking care of yourself . Please not only don't feel guilty, but be deliberate and afford yourself some rest again and regularly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamataca Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 Can't say anything new, just throwing my support and understanding your way. Be good to yourself! Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaneohegirl Posted February 27, 2008 Author Share Posted February 27, 2008 THANKS!!! I got up and dressed felt good...went to get the rug rat ready to go and he looks at me and says "mommy I cold!"... red cheecks and I touch him and hes burning up...102.3 sooo no visit to Dad till the Hubby gets home later tonight... it was really nice just to know I didnt HAVE to do anything... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janet B Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 I have been on both sides of this story - taking care of my mother with cancer and now I have it - and I can tell you that you HAVE to take care of yourself. You have to breathe, rest, pamper yourself (even if just a little bit) and regroup in order to be any help for your father and your children. Seeing you sad, tired, and sick is not going to be a help - but after a wonderful day like you just had you will be able to greet both your dad and your kids with a smile and a bit less stressed. And you gave your little one a great day today - how cool is that! Take care of yourself - God bless you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueeye Posted February 27, 2008 Share Posted February 27, 2008 I know what you mean about feeling guilty. It is much easier said than done to take care of yourself. I didn't have a choice with my Mom--it was just me and her. I got a terrible cold with bronchitis right after Mom was diagnosed and I just about cleared the Oncology waiting area one day with my barking cough. I ended up waiting outside peeping through a window--in February! And I wore masks at home when I had to dress her radiation wounds. Congratulations on a day for YOU! I'm sure your Pop will understand. And double-ditto on what Welthy said about no more germs at a nursing facility! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wendyr Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 You absolutely did the right thing. Please don't feel any guilt and think how happy you made the little guy Sometimes when we are stretched to the max it's important to take a step back and organize our priorities. You did that and you should feel good about it. wendyr Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treebywater Posted February 28, 2008 Share Posted February 28, 2008 I am so glad that you are taking some time to recharge your batteries. You are a WONDERFUL daughter, and you're taking some time for yourself will only benefit you and your Dad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaneohegirl Posted February 28, 2008 Author Share Posted February 28, 2008 yep it was nice to just sit back... and BREATHE... Remember how I said I was gonna go see my Dad after the Hubby came home... BUT then my oldest son was brought home by a friends mom because he was playing touch football and was running backwards fell and hit the back of his head on CONCRETE...so we spent 5 hours in the ER...in which the DR looked at me and said you look familiar LOL...no broken skull or bruising but they did find a MASSIVE sinus infection...so we got antibiotics for that ... took baby to the Dr he has a different strain of the flu than before...so deffinitly cannot bring Dad home till the fevers stop...hopefully it wont spread to the other kids Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaminkw Posted February 29, 2008 Share Posted February 29, 2008 The way your situation is playing itself out reminds me of when my first grandson was a baby. I was working two jobs, my daughter thirteen hour shifts at the hospital. If I asked my son-in-law to give me a couple of hours to get critical tasks done, he would pack him up in the stroller and take him downtown all day with his druggie buddies. The poor little thing sometimes didn't even appear to have had a diaper change when I finally saw him that. The guilt and anguish finally worked it's way out in a case of shingles on my right hand and arm. Now I was not allowed to watch the baby by my nurse daughter and she wrapped me in coverings to even allow me to hold him. Sometimes things happen for a reason to give us a break from a difficult situation when we can't give it to ourselves! Hang in there, Judy in Key West Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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