tkelley Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 I wasn't sure if I should post this in the general forum or this one but finally decided that I felt more like a grieving daughter at the moment. This article just really hit me today but I felt it was well written and worth sharing. I don't have much else to say right now. Just taking one day at a time. One of these days I will post about my father's beautiful wake service and funeral. Just not ready yet. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/24844538/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flyman35 Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 Thanks Tammy. That was definitely worth sharing. Denise Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patti B Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 Thanks, Tammy, that was really nice. I love the question "what was he like"????? Hugs - Patti B. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 Thanks, Tammy. And may I ask......'What was your dad like'? Think of you often. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jyoung20 Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 Thanks Kelly, I wrote an opinion about the article!! Great article. Very proud of SELF magazine!! God Bless!! Jamie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flo Bones Posted July 23, 2008 Share Posted July 23, 2008 Thanks Tammy I enjoyed reading the article. I wish I could count the times people have asked me that same question and it made me furious as if my husband deserve to die because he was a smoker. I too love the question "what was he like"????? Flo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueeye Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 I LOVED that article. I also wrote Self a response to it. I tore it out and gave it to one of my coworkers who I had tried to explain why that question bothered me. She still didn't get it though Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atlanta1 Posted July 24, 2008 Share Posted July 24, 2008 Thanks for posting that article. It hits the nail on the head for alot of us who have heard that question over and over. I am sorry for your loss - having recently lost my Dad I'm sure we are going through some of the same emotions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 What a wonderful way to talk to someone who has experienced this type of loss. What was he like... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
famograham Posted July 31, 2008 Share Posted July 31, 2008 You know...my Mom has only barely just begun this journey, and already, I'm SICK of that question!!! It's the first thing people say..."does she/did she smoke?" Well ,yes, she did..and she still DOES. But does that make my Momma more deserving of death?? Does it lessen in ANY way, the incredible person she is, and always has been?? I hate that question...and am struggling with the whole smoking issue. I still smoke too...and am EXTREMELY angry at myself for that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieB Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 I really loved the article but I couldn't relate to the author in terms of blaming her father for not being around. I never blamed my father or his smoking history for his cancer. Perhaps because I have a grasp on the reality that never smokers get the same types of cancer too. Perhaps because after he died, it was proven his cancer came from asbestos??? I don't know why, but I never judged him or blamed him. I think I have a hard time placing blame on an addictive habit that is legal. If he had OD'ed on heroin or illegal drugs, or driven drunk and died that way, then I think I would experience anger and would have placed blame. Great article though and I can really relate to most of it. Thanks for sharing. I often looked at your dad's avatar pic and wondered- what was he like? (((hug))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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