What grief has taught me - as it applies to today

[Nick C]

So my grandmother (father's mother) passed away last night.

I am so sorry for my dad my aunt and my uncle. Because this is their mother. "She lived a good life" "She's better off" " well she was 94" and "you were lucky to have her as long as you did" do not apply.

It was their mom.

So today when I see them, I'll just say, "I know you are sad...it's you mom."

At least we have that benefit...kinda knowing what to say. Don't we?

[Sheri]

My Dad was sixty when he lost his Dad. Although his Dad was in his late 80's my Dad grieved deeply.

I'm sorry for your loss too Nick.

[MsC1210]

(((((Nick)))))

I am so sorry about your grandmother and even more sorry that, yes, you do know what to say. I wish none of us had to "know".....

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family ..

Hugs

Christine

[Bruce u]

Sorry to read this Nick. Regardless of the age, the sorrow and grief is there.

[tkelley]

Nick,

Sorry for you and your family's loss. You are right though, we do know how it feels now. I have had 2 close friends lose a parent since my dad passed away and when I tell them that I understand, they believe me.

Tammy

[shineladysue]

Nick, I am so very sorry you have lost your grandfather . My condolences to your family . It doesn't matter what age our loved ones are, when they pass, they are missed and the pain and grief are the same. We do understand.

God be with you and your family,

Sue

[Barbb]

Nick, I'm so sad for your family. It is painful no matter what age or what takes their life.

Barb

[wondermom]

Nick,

So sorry for your family's loss. When Mom was going through her fight I told my siblings that I realized something. I realized that, now, when other people tell us they know someone going through cancer or whatever it may be I really feel for them from a deeper, different place. My heart breaks for them because I know what it is like to feel those feelings. Not that I didn't truely feel for other people when they were going through things, I did. It is just different now. I guess it is kind of a gift that we can offer our understanding.

[jaminkw]

Nick, I'm so sorry about your grandmother. It seems such a short time since your mother passed, and you and your family have to suffer another loss so soon. Yes, you are right. Knowing what to say is a lesson hard learned, but your father and aunt and uncle will be the beneficiary.

Peace to you and your family, Judy in Key West

[blueeye]

Nick, I am sorry for you and your family's loss. You're right, no matter how old it still sucks and you still miss them.

Leslie

[fillise]

Nick,

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother. I still feel the loss of each of my grandparents keenly. You know, it doesn't matter how long they lived or how good a life--it's still your grandmother. And it hurts to lose her.

(((Nick))))

Susan

[Ann]

Nick....so very sorry for your loss. When it comes to losing someone we love, age never makes a difference, as we never have them with us long enough. I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.