photokakar Posted December 21, 2008 Share Posted December 21, 2008 Hi, I posted on this site back in Oct and have still been keeping up with reading, but not posting. I thought I would give an update on how my stepdad is doing...last I posted, he had been put back into the hospital with a fever after his chemo. He was able to go home shortly after being admitted, and once they got his fever under control. It seemed to be an infection with his mediport. He has since gotten his 2nd and 3rd round of chemo and is so very weak. After the 2nd round, he was weak for 2 weeks straight and barely able to walk around because of his legs being so weak...then, in his 3rd week after treatment, he was up shopping at the store and driving...then he had to get his 3rd round of chemo and it hit him all over again...the weakness, and soreness. His WBC were down this time and he had to get a blood transfusion...He also got another infection this time, but nothing major and was just put on oral antibiotics. He is still weak from this last chemo..its seems that each chemo hits him harder...is this normal? So, my mom and he had an appointment this past week to just check in. His DR told him that he is only prolonging his life and when the chemo is over, the cancer will come back. I was so pissed that a DR could just tell them this without even seeing any scan to see what the chemo has done. Has anyone ever had this happen? It seems the Dr is very pessimistic and it always gets my mom so upset and she is trying so hard to be strong. My stepdad has been doing so well (after the initial sickness of chemo wears off) and here the Dr tells them this just a week before Christmas. Now, my mom has been so down and sad and Steve, my stepdad, is saying that after the 4th round (which is supposed to be his final before his scans) if nothing has changed he is done. The chemo has been terrible...and Im sure that is the case with any of you on it. He feels so bad and weak after an infusion. The chemo makes him so sick and I wonder if he will ever get better, and then it happens...he is up and walking and eating normal and then ....he has to go get another one. What a vicious cycle...but I know its worth it in the end if it kills the cancer. They both, have been so upbeat and optimistic through this whole thing. When he first started chemo and I first posted, he could barely walk with such bad pain in his back...now he is walking around (with a walker because of his weak legs) and he is going out and getting around. Now, to hear such negative news, it just made us all so sad again. He seems to think that something good has happened becuase he is able to get around now and is on hardly any pain meds...but when your doc isnt hopeful, how can you be?? He will be getting his 4th chemo right after Christmas and then he will be getting all new scans and PET scans to see what the chemo has done to the tumors. We are praying for shrinkage...but the Dr. made is seem that even if it shrinks, it will come back full force. Thanks for letting me vent. I have been just so upset and now, even more so. The holidays are here and my mom cant help but to wonder if this will be our last Christmas with him and Im trying to get her to not think that way. I believe in miracles and prayer. Please pray for us and for my stepdad...he is just too wonderful to leave us yet! Thanks, Jenn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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