MaggieforBIL Posted December 31, 2008 Share Posted December 31, 2008 Hello, I am new to this forum and just drove up 3 weeks ago (from Florida to Tenn) to help my sister with her husband. He was diagnosed 3 months ago with stage 3 LC and is now 81 lbs and has had to stop all treatment until we can get him better. I am trying to take care of him (he's 44 yrs old) and his 2 step kids (8 & 11 yrs old) so his wife (my sister) can work and keep the insurance benefits. This is terribly scary for him as I am sure it is for most diagnosed. But he won't speak to anyone as he is feeling very anxiety ridden. So he asked me finally to call a dear woman that volunteers here locally for some advice and she was sweet enough to give me this site to ask some questions. I will post my questions and hope I can get responses. But I will next go through and try to read some of the posts. I am so darn limited on time with the children and taking care of BIL (brothe-n-law). So I apologize if I am asking something that could be easily found. I am new at this, as well as BIL, so thank you for your kindness, patience and any suggestions or advise. Feel free to ask any questions. 1) He has a TREMENDOUS amount of mucus he is coughing up. He is so afraid of asperating (sp?) when he is alone or asleep. Does anyone have any suggestions other than sitting up (he has a hospital bed to sit him up to relieve some of this coughing up of phleym (sp?). 2) Other than doubling up on his Attivan (same family as Xanax), which we now have done, and doubled his dosage of Remeron (for sleep and anti-depressent and anxiety) do any of you have a suggestion for helping poor BIL through his anxiety attacks. He gets to where he wants to go to the hosptial when it happens. I try talking to him, massaging his feet, hands, head, etc. but am not sure of what to do to help when they come on too strong. Just last night my sis finally agreed to hospice. I am sure they will help. But BIL asked that I ask these specific questions for him. This is a very difficult time for them and my heart breaks, so I am trying to help out as much as possible, but feel quite helpless with what really helps. I am taking care of the meds and trying to help soothe him, but these are two areas I really need to put him at ease with. Thank you for any suggestions, Maggie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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