gail Posted November 9, 2009 Share Posted November 9, 2009 tom Piller, age 50, fought for 11 months and lost his battle October 30. He died just 3 weeks after we learned the lymphoma had spread to his stomach. We are a very close family and spent a lot of time helping him through his chemos, hoping to get him to stem cell. I was his chemo coach. Even when I knew his illness was beyond mine, I had many long talks with him. At the end I told him I felt that I let him down--that I lied to him. 300 people attended his memorial service last Monday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snowflake Posted November 9, 2009 Share Posted November 9, 2009 Gail, You did not let him down, you were there for him when he needed a hand to hold and the comfort of someone who had been there. We all know the odds and the side effects, we just all hope that we are in the "good side" of the statistics. You gave him an experienced companion on a very scary walk, you did NOT let him down, you gave him someone to lean on. I am very sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself, Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick C Posted November 9, 2009 Share Posted November 9, 2009 Gail, you did what you could and your heart was in the right place...the problem is cancer puts all of us in a place that is unpredictible and doesn't allow us to have outcomes we want. I am very sorry, but please don't be hard on yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maryanne Posted November 9, 2009 Share Posted November 9, 2009 Gail so sorry to read this post. My heart goes out to you and your sister. I am so glad you were there for him. So young, please accept my deepest condolences. Maryanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb73 Posted November 10, 2009 Share Posted November 10, 2009 Gail, I am so very sorry. You were there for Tom, and there is nothing more loving that you can do for a person. No one knows how life can turn on a dime, so please, know this - that you were a true friend to him. Please accept my condolences on this loss to you and your family. Barbara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chloesmom Posted November 10, 2009 Share Posted November 10, 2009 Gail, I think he was lucky to have you there for him. You didn't let him down. Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kasey Posted November 10, 2009 Share Posted November 10, 2009 So sorry, Gail. Please don't beat yourself up - some things just are what they are regardless of what anyone tries to do. Thinking of you and miss you. Kasey Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ginnyde Posted November 10, 2009 Share Posted November 10, 2009 Gail, I am so sorry about your BIL, too young. You were a good friend, someone with whom he could walk this journey. We should all be so lucky. Please come join us in December. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted November 10, 2009 Share Posted November 10, 2009 Gail~ I am so sorry for your loss. My sympathy to you and your family. Rochelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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