MARIA.CHAMORRO Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 Hello everyone! My name is Maria and my father was diagnosed with Stage IV lung cancer about two weeks ago. Needless to say, this was a shock to all of us because my dad has never been sick in his life, other than the casual cold. On 14 January, my dad called me since I live in the same town and mom was in Florida, because his right side started feeling numb. At that point we thought he was having a minor stroke but he refused to go to the hospital that day. At the time we also thought he probably fell but didn't want to tell us since he was walking stiff. Anyhow, I made a doctor's appointment for a few days later. By then my mom was back and she called me to tell me the doc thought it was a minor stroke so he was rushed to the ER. There they did some tests and they found a mass in his brain, which was causing pressure which in turn was causing the numbness on his right side. The doctors also found a mass in his lung. That same night he was taken to UNC Hospital at Chapel Hill. Needless to say, I lost it. Luckily my brother was there to handle those first 12 hours. It was the most hectic 12 hours of my life. He spent a week at UNC, where it was determined it was lung cancer, and of course it spread to his brain and some lymph nodes in his chest. This week dad had his first Cyberknife radiation treatment for the brain mass, and he seems to be doing better, and his motor skills have improved significantly. This coming Tuesday, he has the second visit with the oncologists. During the first visit, they still did not have the confirmation of which type of lung cancer it is, so here is hoping on Tuesday we can get an answer as well as his treatment schedule. A few days ago, I moved in my parents with me into my house so I can provide the care my dad needs, as well as helping him financially since he will not be able to work and provide for him and my mom. And I do not mind one bit. My main concern is to minimize the stress on my father while he is getting his treatment. It is just going to be an adjustment. Luckily we love each other and have no issues . Emotionally I am doing better. Once the shock wore off, I went into what I call "military mode" (I'm in the Army). I was like "ok, what do we do? What's next? etc." My father was in the military and I think this mode has put him more at ease. Yes, we are funny that way. And he is being a trooper. Now, I do have a question for those with experience with this: my mom is really having a hard time with this. to the point that she seems like she is detaching herself from this situation. I have spoken with her, as well as my brother, and we really had to explain her attitude is basically telling us that she feels this is an incovenient for her. I know she loves my dad. But it is so frustrating. Anyhow, this is us in a nutshell.Glad to be here although I wish it was under other circumstances. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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