Joppette Posted March 1, 2012 Share Posted March 1, 2012 Well, I'll start, and if someone else beats me in, moderator, please merge my post into theirs. It's a sunny and beautiful day here. The ice storm passed, and now it's going to get to 50! Before you know it we'll have daffodils popping up through the shards of ice! LOL. R took me out for a nice little dinner last night. I could tell he was feeling the weight of all of this, and it physically looked like it was weighing him down on his shoulders. Finally I took his hands, and said "no matter what they say, we only have one choice here. It is to live. Since we know that, the only other choice is to live in fear and anger, or live in joy, finding delight in any and everything we can. I choose to live well, and live with joy." I asked him if he remembered when his Mom was dx with lung cancer. She was very angry. Not only was her last few months of life abjectly miserable, but so were the lives of those around her that loved her. We remembered how sad we all were, and how sad and mad she was and the whole thing was a dark and awful thing to endure. I asked him to keep in mind that no matter what they said, I was going to be here as long as it's meant to be, and whether that's a month, or ten years, there's nothing to do other than find a way to live in peace, with that. And joy! I told him how sad it would make me if I was truly embracing the beauty of life, nature, and relationships, while he brooded in the corner because "life was not fair." Our news this week has been filled with horrible things. We had a road rage incident that resulted in a young couple being killed. We know of two young people at Gilda's who died from their cancer, so young, with lives so full of promise. There were the school shootings in Indiana. And on and on and on it goes. I told him that we both know that life is hard. Not only is it hard, but it is not fair. Some folks seem to skate easily through life (although appearances can be deceiving), and others suffer great tragedies. We need to put our situation into perspective, and realize that our story is no different. It's life and life is hard. What we do with that is what determines how awful and difficult it has to be, or how amazing and awesome it can be. He looked through his tears at me and smiled, and said that he understood. I know it will take time for him to absorb it all, but I think he will. So at 4:00 I meet with the oncology nurse to go through everything, and then we shall see. My two brothers are coming over for lunch. I'm looking forward to that. Have a good day. MI Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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