lilyjohn Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 I woke up this morning with a purpose on my mind. Yesterday I came here and checked to see if there had been new posts. It is sad to say that there were none. How many of us remember that yesterday was a year that we lost our dear friend Judy? She kept this forum going for a very long time and we have let her down now that she is gone. I have to admit how guilty I am. I come here and sometimes I see a post and I read then rush away to something else. Once in a while I write a post but when no one responds I start to feel like no one is interested any more so I back off. I know the reality is that we have moved on to different places. It is easier to go to Facebook and check in there and we have busy lives that we need or want to get back to. That is understandable but I think it is time for a reminder. Why did each of us first come here? I know I came because I was overwhelmed by grief and found a place where people understood. They understood that grief is universal but having been on the ride that comes with Lung Cancer that grief takes on a different meaning. Once I felt accepted and understood here I started to move out of that deep pit of depression that I was in. I didn't do it alone. It took the support of everyone who came here daily. It took words and kindness from others and it took having a place to let out the anger. It took finding an understanding and realizing that I was not alone, that there were others who had been there and were there and we could share our fear, anger and grief. Now I come here and see that days have passed and not one person has posted. Not only is that sad but it makes me feel like we are letting all the people who were there for us down because we are not playing what we were given forward to others. How many are there out there that have came here for support and found no one here? How many more would have reached out for help if they could have found some of us here waiting just as we had found others waiting when we needed them? One of the things that really helped me to start to want to get moving out of that pit of depression was a sermon that a visiting preacher gave one Sunday at our little church when I lived in French Gulch. He told about his wife and their battle with alzhiemers. He told about how he was so lost in his grief that he wasn't doing the things he should have been then one day he realized that his grief had turned to sin. Why? because he kept questioning why and he hadn't done anything to use what he had been through to help others. He said that when we go through something so painful, when our grief or fear has dominated our life for so long it is our duty to take all of the pain , fear and anger and use the understanding it has given to us to help others. Our Katie is probably the best example of that you will find anywhere. So now I will get off of my soap box and promise to try and do better, to try to come here more often again and welcome those who like us would never have wanted to need this place but deserve the same support that we were given because what they want and what they need are two very different things. Please join me in welcoming them and let's get this site up and active again. Let's do it for all of the people out there who need us but also let's do it for Judy and Sara and Annette, Dean Carl and so many others who have became a part of our special memories of this wonderful group that we have called family, this place that none of us ever wanted or expected to belong to but who have been blessed to find it when we needed it most. So please come and visit again and someone please let me know if you have heard from Dianne. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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