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Our mom passed away last night


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...at about 11:20 pm. After her emergency bowel surgery in late November, she seemed to just go downhill, and there wasn't anything I could do about it, not even take her to the Block Center; she no longer wanted it to be my problem. It was increasingly painful to see her suffering every day. I would dread it, and would feel guilty because I knew I should be spending time with her but had to balance that between finding a new job(I got laid off Dec 18.), and spending time with my friends/family. I even talked to my pastor and he told me that God knows I tried my best, and it is no longer my job to save her. She went from the hospital, to home, then back to the hospital, then finally decided on hospice at a local nursing home.

She went into a coma earlier yesterday, so we called the cavalry and all her friends and family came. She was barely breathing, and for what seemed like forever with every exhale was just moaning like she wanted to say something. She passed with my sister, brother and I holding her hands. She is in heaven now with my Papa. More to come soon. sorry all.

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Hi Marlon,

My sincere condolences to you and your family. Peace, take care and God Bless.



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Marlon, I hope that you know that you did all that you could for your mother, she was so lucky to have you in her corner, and I am sure that she knew that. I am so sorry for your loss. Please, Marlon, try not to have any regrets-you did the best you could do, and alot more than many others could/would do. Please try to stay on here, we want to help you through this loss, as much as we can. We are here for you, we will be waiting...Deb

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I am so sorry to hear of your mothers passing. My sincere condolences to you and your family. You were so wonderful and caring to your Mom, you did the best anyone could do and you will always have that to be proud of. I pray that God grants you the strength to get through this most difficult time

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I am so sorry to hear of your mothers passing. My sincere condolences to you and your family. You were so wonderful and caring to your Mom, you did the best anyone could do and you will always have that to be proud of. I pray that God grants you the strength to get through this most difficult time

Bess B

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I am so very, very sorry. I hope you are able to find comfort in the knowledge that you were her strongest support and advocate throughout her illness. Please extend my condolences to all who loved her.

Hoping life holds you with gentler hands from this day on.

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Ohh Marlon,

So very sorry for your loss, Know that you made her proud and you were a wonderful advocate for her. May God comfort you and the family in your tme of need.

my thoughts and prayers are with you.

God bless and be well

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