Marlon Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 ...at about 11:20 pm. After her emergency bowel surgery in late November, she seemed to just go downhill, and there wasn't anything I could do about it, not even take her to the Block Center; she no longer wanted it to be my problem. It was increasingly painful to see her suffering every day. I would dread it, and would feel guilty because I knew I should be spending time with her but had to balance that between finding a new job(I got laid off Dec 18.), and spending time with my friends/family. I even talked to my pastor and he told me that God knows I tried my best, and it is no longer my job to save her. She went from the hospital, to home, then back to the hospital, then finally decided on hospice at a local nursing home. She went into a coma earlier yesterday, so we called the cavalry and all her friends and family came. She was barely breathing, and for what seemed like forever with every exhale was just moaning like she wanted to say something. She passed with my sister, brother and I holding her hands. She is in heaven now with my Papa. More to come soon. sorry all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shirleyb Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon, I am so very sorry that your dear mother lost her battle. My heart breaks for you and your sister and brother. I hope you are able to find some peace in knowing she is not having to fight anymore and is at peace. Much love, Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Wood Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon, I am so saddened at the news of your mom's passing. Keep in touch so we can give you support through this. Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ry Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Oh my gosh, you were wonderful to your mother. She couldn't have had a better advocate on her side. I am sorry for you loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mhutch1366 Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon, I am so very very sorry about the loss of your mother. Accept my deepest sympathies. Bless you and know you are in my prayers. MaryAnn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karen335 Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon, I am so sorry about the passing of your mother. My condolences to you and your family. May the the pain that you are feeling in your heart be softened. Prayers for you and your family... God Bless Karen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddy Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Condolences to you and your family, so very sorry, Paddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiny Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon- I feel so sad for you. You and your mom fought the good fight, but as you say, it was always in God's hands. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your precious parent. Thinking of you... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheresaKB Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Hi Marlon, I am so sorry for your loss. Your Mom gave a good fight with you on her side. She was so blessed to have you as a son. Please accept my most sincere condolences. I hope that time and memories will ease you pain. Once again, I am so sorry. Theresa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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cathy Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Oh Marlon, I am so sorry. I know how much you loved your mom. Your mom is at peace now, no more suffering......Stay with us and maybe we can help you to heal and find peace....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gerbil runner Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 So sorry to hear of your loss. Feeling helpless is so difficult. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna G Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 I am so sorry. I pray you and your family find peace. She put up a wonder fight and I am sure appreiciated your support so much. Donna G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J.C. Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon, Sorry about your mother, words are hard to find in trying to convay my sympathy. She is over the Rainbow bridge, where many welcomed her, but she is watching and loving all her childrens. J.C. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debaroo Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon, I hope that you know that you did all that you could for your mother, she was so lucky to have you in her corner, and I am sure that she knew that. I am so sorry for your loss. Please, Marlon, try not to have any regrets-you did the best you could do, and alot more than many others could/would do. Please try to stay on here, we want to help you through this loss, as much as we can. We are here for you, we will be waiting...Deb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MO_Sugar Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon, I am so sorry to hear of your dear Mothers passing. Yiour family will be in my prayers. God Bless, MO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon I am so sorry to hear of your mothers passing. My sincere condolences to you and your family. You were so wonderful and caring to your Mom, you did the best anyone could do and you will always have that to be proud of. I pray that God grants you the strength to get through this most difficult time Bess B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon I am so sorry to hear of your mothers passing. My sincere condolences to you and your family. You were so wonderful and caring to your Mom, you did the best anyone could do and you will always have that to be proud of. I pray that God grants you the strength to get through this most difficult time Bess B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephnewyork34 Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 So sorry to hear that. My heart goes out to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon, I'm so sorry to hear this .... You were so strong and wonderful to her. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your sister. Laurie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fay A. Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Marlon, I am so very, very sorry. I hope you are able to find comfort in the knowledge that you were her strongest support and advocate throughout her illness. Please extend my condolences to all who loved her. Hoping life holds you with gentler hands from this day on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bobmc Posted January 22, 2004 Share Posted January 22, 2004 Ohh Marlon, So very sorry for your loss, Know that you made her proud and you were a wonderful advocate for her. May God comfort you and the family in your tme of need. my thoughts and prayers are with you. God bless and be well Bobmc- NSCLC- stageIIB- left pneumonectomy- 5/2/01 MRI's taken 12/18/03 - 2 brain mets found- named em Frick & Frack PET taken 1/5 - hot spot in mediastinum May be cancer?? "Absolutely insist on enjoying life today!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SandyS Posted January 23, 2004 Share Posted January 23, 2004 Oh Marlon - I was afraid something was wrong when you didn't answer my emails......I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm right in the neighborhood - email me if there's anything I can do to help.... Hugs and prayers, SandyS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pritchie Posted January 23, 2004 Share Posted January 23, 2004 Marlon, I'm so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family. Pamela Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kimblanchard Posted January 23, 2004 Share Posted January 23, 2004 I am so sorry. May you take comfort in knowing you did your best and she is where there is no suffering. God Bless Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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